Hi. I’ve just joined due to not having much support and am at a loss as to how I’m going to cope with what’s happening. My grandma was diagnosed with dementia, Alzheimer’s and multi-system atrophy around a year ago. Her decline has been so rapid that she’s been wandering, forgetting who I am and rarely eating. She had carers coming in but social services found her a placement in a home. She went in to the home on Monday and I visited for the first time today. It was the worst I have ever seen her. She cried constantly, kept getting up to ask the staff if they could arrange transport because she needs to leave to get “back there”, she’s convinced the home are stopping her dad and brothers from visiting (her dad died 35 years ago and she only has one brother that’s still alive). One of the other residents lost it with one of the staff and started screaming and swearing which made my grandma cry even more. It absolutely broke my heart to leave her there so upset. She looked like a terrified child. Even though it’s the best place for her to be because she’s safe, clean and fed why do I feel so awful? My mum is on the verge of a nervous breakdown and we’re struggling as a family. My grandad was diagnosed with dementia the same day grandma went in to the home (22/30 on his assessment) so we have it all to come with my grandad too. The thought of her being there alone and frightened makes me so upset and feel so guilty. Will she settle a little or will it just be downhill from now?