Does acceptance of care home living come with time? My mother has been in a care home for 6 months now and the standard of care is good. She has Alzheimer's and frontotemporal dementia along with a number of health issues (bowel incontinence; lack of mobility etc). The decision to place her in care was done after she had had a number of falls at home and her dementia had resulted in serious h&s concerns. She accepted that she wasn`t able to look after herself any more even with carers coming in three times a day, hence the decision to place her in a care home was taken However recently she has been making comments along the lines that she is restricted; can`t do what she wants to do; some residents wake her up during the night due to them shouting out etc etc; none of the residents communicate with her and that she is `trapped` and the days are long. I live 200 miles away but my brother sees her weekly and has started to take her out once a week to a local cafe for a change of scene. The first week he did that gave her a huge boost but this week she was almost non-descript about it. I feel so guilty as to how she is feeling. Is it normal she should be feeling like this and will she gradually accept her new normal. Up to the age of 84 my mother was physically and mentally fit and totally independent (going into town and doing her own shopping etc) but she had a rapid decline after 84.