I wonder if anyone has had similar experiences as myself with the lack of suitable care? My dad has been refusing to let my mum wash him for such a long time now that I fear for his health. He gets verbally and sometimes physically threatening if my mum tries to force him. She has now been told that there is a 2 year waiting list for someone to come and wash him for her. Does anyone have any advice I can give my mum please? If it helps, my parents live in Southampton. I look forward to hearing from you.