Hi everyone,
I am new to the forum. I look after my father who has Alzheimers. He has carers in twice a day to shower him and put him to bed. Also goes to day centre three times a week. He's home on a Wednesday and seems to be ok , but then by Thursday he seems to be bored and starts looking for me from about lunchtime onwards. we have a telecare alarm fitted therefore I know everytime he leaves the house. He has left the house between 12 noon today and 15.30 , twelve times!!! I work about a mile and a half from where he lives, and I live two doors away. What usually happens is that he goes over to my house to see if i'm there after ringing and knocking for a good while, then checks through all the windows that i'm not home, then gives up and goes home. So I leave it a good few minutes then I ring to check that he has got home safely. But today I just can't concentrate on my work (this is about the fourth Thursday he's been like this) . My boss is understanding but I feel like i'm being unfair on him as i'm constantly trying to ring my father to check he's ok , or if I don't get an answer I jump in the car and go and check him physically. Does anyone have any ideas how I can eliminate this behaviour. I am unable to get another day centre day at the moment, and it is not an option to give up work. I leave notes for my father to say when I will be home (5 pm ) but even though he can tell the time he has no concept of the time. Any help would be greatly appreciated.
I am new to the forum. I look after my father who has Alzheimers. He has carers in twice a day to shower him and put him to bed. Also goes to day centre three times a week. He's home on a Wednesday and seems to be ok , but then by Thursday he seems to be bored and starts looking for me from about lunchtime onwards. we have a telecare alarm fitted therefore I know everytime he leaves the house. He has left the house between 12 noon today and 15.30 , twelve times!!! I work about a mile and a half from where he lives, and I live two doors away. What usually happens is that he goes over to my house to see if i'm there after ringing and knocking for a good while, then checks through all the windows that i'm not home, then gives up and goes home. So I leave it a good few minutes then I ring to check that he has got home safely. But today I just can't concentrate on my work (this is about the fourth Thursday he's been like this) . My boss is understanding but I feel like i'm being unfair on him as i'm constantly trying to ring my father to check he's ok , or if I don't get an answer I jump in the car and go and check him physically. Does anyone have any ideas how I can eliminate this behaviour. I am unable to get another day centre day at the moment, and it is not an option to give up work. I leave notes for my father to say when I will be home (5 pm ) but even though he can tell the time he has no concept of the time. Any help would be greatly appreciated.