hi,
My graindmother is suffering from alzeimerswhich effects her moods severely. She is either extremely aggressive or cries all the time saying she wants to die.After a severe episode she voluntarily went into an assessment unit and was there about six weeks. The problem is that she has four children and the oldest daughter upto now has refused any mention of going into a home even though one of the biggest problems is that my grandma is extremely distressed about living aloneand noone is able to stay with her.
The assessment unit recommended that it would be best to go into a home but two of the sisters said they wanted her to come home. A care package was set in place and we all went as often as possible but she went straight back into her usual mood. I know they say that they pick on one person and that person is my mum she is determined to upset my mum to the stage where she is hysterical and in tears.(my mum also has a very nervous nature so god help me!!)
After being home for two weeks my mum went last week where in order to get her own way my grandma tried to strangle herself, run up and down the main road like something possessed and caused havoc with her chinese neighbours calling them names a pit man would have been proud of.My mum then drove home (40 minutes away) a complete mess and called the psychiatric nurse.He then went to my grandma and she again agreed to go back to the assessment centre.
I know it has taken a long time to get to this question but here goes.If my mum sister and brother all agree that she should go into a nursing home(even if the oldest sister doesn't agree)and the unit think this is the best thing for her if my grandma refuses to go do we have to respect her wishes or can we make the final decision?
Any advice would be great
thanks
My graindmother is suffering from alzeimerswhich effects her moods severely. She is either extremely aggressive or cries all the time saying she wants to die.After a severe episode she voluntarily went into an assessment unit and was there about six weeks. The problem is that she has four children and the oldest daughter upto now has refused any mention of going into a home even though one of the biggest problems is that my grandma is extremely distressed about living aloneand noone is able to stay with her.
The assessment unit recommended that it would be best to go into a home but two of the sisters said they wanted her to come home. A care package was set in place and we all went as often as possible but she went straight back into her usual mood. I know they say that they pick on one person and that person is my mum she is determined to upset my mum to the stage where she is hysterical and in tears.(my mum also has a very nervous nature so god help me!!)
After being home for two weeks my mum went last week where in order to get her own way my grandma tried to strangle herself, run up and down the main road like something possessed and caused havoc with her chinese neighbours calling them names a pit man would have been proud of.My mum then drove home (40 minutes away) a complete mess and called the psychiatric nurse.He then went to my grandma and she again agreed to go back to the assessment centre.
I know it has taken a long time to get to this question but here goes.If my mum sister and brother all agree that she should go into a nursing home(even if the oldest sister doesn't agree)and the unit think this is the best thing for her if my grandma refuses to go do we have to respect her wishes or can we make the final decision?
Any advice would be great
thanks