Hi...I would really value some input on a bit of a situation that has developed (I guess we are all used to dealing with a 'situation'!).
Basically my mum (82) was diagnosed with mixed Dementia in Jan 2015. She is very stubborn and wants to be independent and was moved from a respite home back to her council bungalow. She lives alone. I live 100 miles away and have LPA for her financial affairs. I sorted out her finances which were a terrible mess and they are now all good. I got care sorted but it was clear the daily visit wasn't enough. Around Easter time, after discussions with her social worker I upgraded the care package to one recommended by the LA. Payment is made via the Direct Payments system.
Mum is now visited twice a day. She gives every impression of coping but things are getting worse...soiled sheets, no personal hygiene, no cleaning, not cooking or washing (I have meals on wheels arranged). She is very isolated and clearly is very depressed.
Mum doesn't see the point in carers coming as she says she can cope without them, which she clearly can't. Mum also refuses any medical help or assessment and will turn people away if they try to visit.
My suspicion is that the new care company simply are not trained in dementia care. I was very concerned that her bedding was so badly soiled and hadn't been seen by a carer. They come in, chat to her, and usual run an errand such as getting her cigarettes. I've been there on occasion when the carers are there and one two occasions the visit was only 5 minutes (it should be 30 minutes per visit, that's what is being paid for).
On visiting last week I noticed in the carers log book that 4 times in the last week only one daily visit had been made. I contacted the care company and the social worker about this. I was told in no uncertain terms that mum was unresponsive and the care company in particular seemed frustrated by the situation. They had decided (without contacting me) to cut back the care to one visit a day. I'm furious about this and have told them so, they said I should have been consulted and are investigating how it happened (!) but are still adamant it's going to be one daily visit.
Mum resolutely refuses the notion of a care home but isn't coping alone. However, I do feel with the right care she could be taken into town, given things to do etc, a more proactive response. Sadly her funds are very limited and we rely on the care providers the Local Authority suggest, searches in the area where she lives (Grantham, Lincs) haven't revealed much.
Mum's social worker said mum's response was very unique and he had many years experience of working with dementia patients...I find this hard to believe. My fear is that collusion between the care companies and social worker will cut mum's care and/or they will ultimately take this to the Court of Protection to force her into a home.
If that makes sense is there any advice anyone could give me at all?
I understand budgets are pressured, people are poorly paid and the whole arena is under resourced...but even so I've been disappointed in the attitude of the social worker and the care company (whose lack of professionalism extends to not giving me correct bank details for payments, giving me forms that can't be opened by anyone and even spelling 'invoice' wrong...small things but they say a lot!
sorry to ramble on but any thoughts would be gratefully read!
many thanks
Nigel
Basically my mum (82) was diagnosed with mixed Dementia in Jan 2015. She is very stubborn and wants to be independent and was moved from a respite home back to her council bungalow. She lives alone. I live 100 miles away and have LPA for her financial affairs. I sorted out her finances which were a terrible mess and they are now all good. I got care sorted but it was clear the daily visit wasn't enough. Around Easter time, after discussions with her social worker I upgraded the care package to one recommended by the LA. Payment is made via the Direct Payments system.
Mum is now visited twice a day. She gives every impression of coping but things are getting worse...soiled sheets, no personal hygiene, no cleaning, not cooking or washing (I have meals on wheels arranged). She is very isolated and clearly is very depressed.
Mum doesn't see the point in carers coming as she says she can cope without them, which she clearly can't. Mum also refuses any medical help or assessment and will turn people away if they try to visit.
My suspicion is that the new care company simply are not trained in dementia care. I was very concerned that her bedding was so badly soiled and hadn't been seen by a carer. They come in, chat to her, and usual run an errand such as getting her cigarettes. I've been there on occasion when the carers are there and one two occasions the visit was only 5 minutes (it should be 30 minutes per visit, that's what is being paid for).
On visiting last week I noticed in the carers log book that 4 times in the last week only one daily visit had been made. I contacted the care company and the social worker about this. I was told in no uncertain terms that mum was unresponsive and the care company in particular seemed frustrated by the situation. They had decided (without contacting me) to cut back the care to one visit a day. I'm furious about this and have told them so, they said I should have been consulted and are investigating how it happened (!) but are still adamant it's going to be one daily visit.
Mum resolutely refuses the notion of a care home but isn't coping alone. However, I do feel with the right care she could be taken into town, given things to do etc, a more proactive response. Sadly her funds are very limited and we rely on the care providers the Local Authority suggest, searches in the area where she lives (Grantham, Lincs) haven't revealed much.
Mum's social worker said mum's response was very unique and he had many years experience of working with dementia patients...I find this hard to believe. My fear is that collusion between the care companies and social worker will cut mum's care and/or they will ultimately take this to the Court of Protection to force her into a home.
If that makes sense is there any advice anyone could give me at all?
I understand budgets are pressured, people are poorly paid and the whole arena is under resourced...but even so I've been disappointed in the attitude of the social worker and the care company (whose lack of professionalism extends to not giving me correct bank details for payments, giving me forms that can't be opened by anyone and even spelling 'invoice' wrong...small things but they say a lot!
sorry to ramble on but any thoughts would be gratefully read!
many thanks
Nigel