Hello my name is richard around three years ago my nana was diagnosed with slight memory loss and a year and a half ago alzheimers. My nana brought me up, i have a loving mum and dad but my nana was the one who always picked me up from school looked after me when i was sick went on holiday with us. she was basically my mum. not cos my mum and dad wasn't bothered but they tought that the more they both worked the better life they could give me and my brother. safe in the fact my nan was the best replacement. and she was the best i could ever have wished for. Now things have changed. I'm looking after her, at first it was just she couldn't find her purse or she had put her medication somewhere and coudn't remember where. But in the last three months things have changed dramaticly. she no longer remembers what she said 10 seconds ago is incontinent argumentative will not eat or more she thinks she has when she hasn't. she has basically gone down hill very very fast she is on aricept. My main problem lies in her son my uncle lives with her and i feel he is making the situation worse. all he seems to do is get her that worked up she crys or worse still wanders out. I give her all her medication and care for her nearly all day every day but as soon as he comes home he undoes everything i've done. I want to give her the best possible care i can but feel i'm been hindered. My other problem is i have had to quit my job to care for her and receive no carers allowance or any other benefit which is also a strain as i have two children under 4 and a wife to care for. my wife supports me 100% but any money i could get would be a help but at the same time i dont want it to come out of my nanas money. my uncle will not move or let her be placed in a residential home which i do not want either realy. but it would make him homeless and at the moment he has no rent bills etc and she pays for all the food so there isn't much wonder he wont go. but i'm starting to feel if i cannot care for her 100% she will have to go in a home as she is becoming a danger to herself. I would appreciate any advice.
Many Thanks
Richard
Many Thanks
Richard