Can I take my Mom out of a Nursing Home?

Discussion in 'Middle - later stages of dementia' started by Emzie, Apr 27, 2015.

  1. canary

    canary Registered User

    Feb 25, 2014
    10,709
    Female
    South coast
    Oh fr0d0 - my heart goes out to you
    You must love your mum very much to be willing to do all of that.
    When someone first goes into a care home, especially if they have come from hospital, they are lost and confused and probably still unwell. You look at them and you just want to scoop them up in your arms and make it all better.

    Unfortunately its not always for their best and may not even be possible. I remember when my MIL was in hospital after a back injury I discovered that she had to be turned by two nurses every 2 hours throughout the day and the night. She had a little chart by her bed and it showed about 5 or 6 different postures (stick man type diagrams) of the different positions and I asked the nurses about it - thats how I found out. They said that the positions had to be done in strict rotation and were designed so that nowhere on her body had the weight on it for more than 2 hours and then had a rest so that bed sores were minimised (she had an air mattress too).

    Looking after a paralysed person requires nursing abilities and most things (turning, hoisting, changing, cleaning) require 2 people.

    I think pickles idea of staying for a couple of days is a good one. You could stay B&B nearby and arrive first thing and stay there during the day until late evening. Also talk to the nurses and find out what care she needs. Remember that things can change quite rapidly too.
     
  2. eslainy

    eslainy Registered User

    May 5, 2015
    2
    I have recently taken my elderly aunt out of her care home where she was for 2 months, she hated it and was not at the stage of the other dementia patients. I have moved in to her home where everthing is familiar for her. It has not been easy, good days and bad and i do wonder if i have done the right thing but to see her smile in her own surroundings is worth it..... so far!
     
  3. fr0d0

    fr0d0 Registered User

    Dec 23, 2009
    186
    Mid Wales
    Thank you for the advice. My mum's been at the home 4 weeks now. She was turned 2 hourly in hospital they said. Maybe the level of care would be too much for one person. Maybe an additional carer needed so many times during the day would be out the question. I'm quite big and healthy, strong and ugly enough to move my mum myself. Not to disparage anything trained carers can do. I'm just wondering if those policies intended to keep people at home with their families included my situation. I know for sure that it be better for my mum socially. Maybe not so much for me but I want to know how far home support goes.
     
  4. canary

    canary Registered User

    Feb 25, 2014
    10,709
    Female
    South coast
    Fr0d0 - Im sure you are strong enough to move your mum and I expect she is now light as a feather, but the reason they get 2 trained nurses to turn someone is so that they dont injure the person by moving and/or putting them down the wrong way

    It must be so difficult seeing her like this. Would her friends who would visit her at home not be willing to visit her in the NH?
     
  5. fr0d0

    fr0d0 Registered User

    Dec 23, 2009
    186
    Mid Wales
    Thanks for your comments canary. My mum has no one else locally besides me. I'm the only person who visits.
     

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