I’ve just had my first slap. One of the cousins who has appeared out of the woodwork, who gets all the relationships wrong, calls cousins aunts & blood relatives “step” & sees no need for “proof”, so no certificates etc, so following what she is telling me is hard work
She’s told me an uncle doesn’t exist (but he is on the census), told me my grandmother is at least 10 years older than she is & lived in a different country
I’m thanking her & trying not to get frustrated, but ...
So today I’ve dug out & sent her some photos, as promised, but there is a relative, that I can’t link in. I know it’s there. I just need to go back through my notes
So I got an email from the cousin ... “I already told you”
Nope. She didn’t. Unless the relative has a father with the same name as my grandfather ... as she’s trying to tell me they are brothers
I think I’ll have a large rum & leave my reply till tomorrow