Can I scream on here please!!!

Discussion in 'I care for a person with dementia' started by exhausted 2015, Dec 3, 2015.

  1. exhausted 2015

    exhausted 2015 Registered User

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    #1 exhausted 2015, Dec 3, 2015
    Last edited: Dec 3, 2015
    I'm giving myself a pat on the back for my patience.. For answering the same set of questions about 30 times each night when dad goes to bed and each time I grit my teeth and answer like it's the first time he has asked.. How many of us carers go through this each evening... It must be hundreds.. Had my rant.. Goodnight all I'll be up again at 1am exhausted 2015 xx Ps just been up to settle him again and answered the same set of questions....
     
  2. Slugsta

    Slugsta Registered User

    (((exhausted 2015))) you scream away my love, here is a safe place to do so.
     
  3. di65

    di65 Registered User

    Feb 28, 2013
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    This is a deep dark well of screams:D They will never be heard by the wider world, and I'm sure that it so deep that it will never be full.

    You scream away, we all know what you're going through

    << HUGS >>
     
  4. Sue J

    Sue J Registered User

    Dec 9, 2009
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    Another pat on the back from me Exhausted, scream away. I live on auto pilot the replies that come out of my mouth are like a record too:rolleyes: maybe I should record my voice and leave it playing on a loop, I wonder if it would be noticed it wasn't me:(;):rolleyes:
     
  5. exhausted 2015

    exhausted 2015 Registered User

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    Ha ha!! good idea xx
     
  6. Stresshead

    Stresshead Registered User

    Sep 13, 2014
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    You scream away it'll do you the power of good !! Sometimes I actually get sick of the sound of my own voice. Not quite the same as you in answering the same questions mine is more 'go on dad try a little bit' ...'just one more spoonful' ... 'just a bit dad'...'go on just one more'.....aaaarrrghhh!! I feel like I'm stuck on repeat !! The idea of a tape recorder is a good one....I'll just press play and then go and open the wine bottle.


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  7. Tin

    Tin Registered User

    May 18, 2014
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    If each scream was worth a penny and the same repeated answer a pound coin, I would be soooo rich right now.

    The night questions I usually answer with a finger to my lips, asking mum to be very quiet or she will wake everyone up. Sometimes works and is better than me trying to answer the question "so what are we going to do today? Why havn't we seen Carol yet?"
    ALL of my female friends are called Carol now.
     
  8. Countryboy

    Countryboy Registered User

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    speaking in defence of the person with dementia life isn't that great for him at the moment either , my answer would ok I got dementia but one day so might You
     
  9. Tin

    Tin Registered User

    May 18, 2014
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    Always aware of this Tony, more so since mum came to live with me and family medical history came to light and when someone says something inappropriate to my mum my answer is the same except sometimes I replace "might" with "will".
     
  10. fizzie

    fizzie Registered User

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    Thank you for posting that Tony, it helps me to put things into perspective when it gets difficult xxxx
     
  11. Countryboy

    Countryboy Registered User

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    Yes Tin irrespective of what experts say dementia does run in families both my Mum & Dad an Ant & Uncle and me so that five close relatives and I could there are more but they haven’t had a definite diagnoses but that only because they won’t accept there is a problem
     
  12. Sue J

    Sue J Registered User

    Dec 9, 2009
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    Hi Tony

    I agree the symptoms are far from great and more frustrating for the sufferer but sufferers alike can and do get frustrated with each others symptoms - its only human.

    Hope your day isn't too bad today
    Best wishes
    Sue:)
     
  13. exhausted 2015

    exhausted 2015 Registered User

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    Yes I open the wine too xx
     
  14. exhausted 2015

    exhausted 2015 Registered User

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    Hi tony sorry I didn't mean to offend this awful disease is hard for both sufferer and carer my best wishes exhausted 2015 xx
     
  15. Wendy C

    Wendy C Registered User

    Jan 29, 2012
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    I had this. My Mom asking the same questions over and over and it used to drive me mad. Had to grit teeth and walk away. Now Mom does not talk at all, would love her to ask me a question. This is a horrible disease and my thoughts are with you. xxx
     
  16. exhausted 2015

    exhausted 2015 Registered User

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    Hi Wendy so sorry to hear that, maybe I should be grateful that dad can still talk even if it is the same thing over and over again, my best wishes exhausted 2015 xx
     
  17. Rhodie

    Rhodie Registered User

    Dec 5, 2015
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    Good idea stressed, lol. Nice one. ☺

     
  18. Rhodie

    Rhodie Registered User

    Dec 5, 2015
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    Lol.

    Good idea stressed, lol. Nice one. ☺

     
  19. Rhodie

    Rhodie Registered User

    Dec 5, 2015
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    Thanks for the reality perspective Wendy C. Helpful reminder for me and my partner re our Dads, thanks.

     
  20. Chuggalug

    Chuggalug Registered User

    Mar 24, 2014
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    Oh wow. I wondered what this was about. Yes, it still is a major feature of my husband's illness. I only ever hear where do I live; when am I coming home. Never anything else. He does try to ask in different ways sometimes, as if he's trying to work out how to ask the questions, but it's always the same two.

    Really do understand your frustration.
     

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