My husband has been in Nursing and Dementia Care Home but has to be moved due to poor care (long story).
SS cannot find suitable Care Home with Nursing and Dementia care less than 30 miles away so I am looking at the possibility of bringing him back home. Social and Mental Health workers / managers are seeing it as feasible.
My husband was sectioned last October due to his aggression so has been away from me since then. First in hospital then in the Care Home. I did not see him again until March this year. I missed him so much.
He is generally settled I'm told by staff but they say he is agitated when receiving personal care. He has lost so much weight (5 stones) that caused me concern and he has had many unwitnessed falls and been in A&E and carries the scars but no bones broken. A GP is now investigating and treating him re weight loss. There has not been any stimulation or activities for him or others in his unit during lockdowns. He had Covid soon after his first jab and was isolated and deteriorated and is now not mobile.
He sits and sleeps in his comfy chair day and night and has developed a pressure sore. He reacts to me when I visit - 3 face to face visits so far. Touching him, singing to him and chatting, he gives me his smile but cannot now verbalise though he tries. He cannot feed himself so is fed and he is doubly incontinent as he is unable to toilet himself. He is sadly at the advanced stage of LBD.
We are both 70 and 72 and have been married 50 years. I am angry and sad and my head is whizzing. I don't know what the right thing to do is but I feel I will regret not giving him a chance at home with me with appropriate help. Am I mad?
Any advice from anyone who has taken this step of "Home Care to care at home" would be well received.
At the moment I am awaiting assessments from Occupational Therapist re his needs and home adjustments, Mental Health CPN re medication, Social Services re risk, and District Nurse re nursing needs. Also I have spoken to an Agency about providing 24/7 live in care and support.
SS cannot find suitable Care Home with Nursing and Dementia care less than 30 miles away so I am looking at the possibility of bringing him back home. Social and Mental Health workers / managers are seeing it as feasible.
My husband was sectioned last October due to his aggression so has been away from me since then. First in hospital then in the Care Home. I did not see him again until March this year. I missed him so much.
He is generally settled I'm told by staff but they say he is agitated when receiving personal care. He has lost so much weight (5 stones) that caused me concern and he has had many unwitnessed falls and been in A&E and carries the scars but no bones broken. A GP is now investigating and treating him re weight loss. There has not been any stimulation or activities for him or others in his unit during lockdowns. He had Covid soon after his first jab and was isolated and deteriorated and is now not mobile.
He sits and sleeps in his comfy chair day and night and has developed a pressure sore. He reacts to me when I visit - 3 face to face visits so far. Touching him, singing to him and chatting, he gives me his smile but cannot now verbalise though he tries. He cannot feed himself so is fed and he is doubly incontinent as he is unable to toilet himself. He is sadly at the advanced stage of LBD.
We are both 70 and 72 and have been married 50 years. I am angry and sad and my head is whizzing. I don't know what the right thing to do is but I feel I will regret not giving him a chance at home with me with appropriate help. Am I mad?
Any advice from anyone who has taken this step of "Home Care to care at home" would be well received.
At the moment I am awaiting assessments from Occupational Therapist re his needs and home adjustments, Mental Health CPN re medication, Social Services re risk, and District Nurse re nursing needs. Also I have spoken to an Agency about providing 24/7 live in care and support.