Hi Bel
Just want to say Hi, I'm 51 and my husband is 53 with advanced AD. He also ran his own business 7 years ago and also sat one day and said ' I just can't do this any more'.He told me how he kept having to recheck things over and over again and how unbareably frustating it got , and like your husband he had the responsibility if he got it wrong. He came from a poor and difficult background and the business which he built up himself, was to him the thing that proved his worth. Things got pretty difficult early on, and I'm ashamed to say I did a lot of 'poor me'. But as I look at him now so weak and helpless and realize how much he has lost and how much I still have I feel so small and so guilty.The thing is our marriage like most was not 'all roses' and I would start to think about the sacrifices I felt I had made to support him and his needs for so long, waiting for the time when everything would finally all work out the way we planned, to have time together so we could really get to know each other again. Well we certainly did get that time together , and I have had time to understand the sacrifices he had to make, and the rewards he will never get, the hardest part is now, after all we have been through over the past few years, even though he can't talk to me when he looks into my eyes,they are the same eyes I looked into so long ago when we were young and I feel such a deep love between us, much more ,than if we had gone on a few more holidays, out to a few more dinners,or spent a bit more money ,so in the middle of all the negative feeling that fly around , for us beautiful moments still happen .I hope they will for you...........................cheers