My family were really close until my dad died. About a year later, mum had a stroke and vascular dementia has overtaken her life. I moved mum in with me and my relatively new partner against the wishes of my three sisters and brother, who all believed she should be in a care home. Mum has been with us for nearly a year now and her dementia has progressed quite rapidly, aggression is an everyday challenge now. But we are coping with this despite the lack of support from my family. Today, I found that behind my back they have not only enquired but visited a home near them ( I live 40 miles away with mum) looking at a place for her! Sorry, just had to vent! Not sure where I will go from here.