My OH moved to a Dementia Nursing Home on Thursday from a hospital Dementia Assessment Unit where he had been for just over 3 months. First couple of days weren't perfect but on the whole he didn't seem to realise he had moved. Yesterdays visit was my worst nightmare. He was very distressed, he was incoherent and salivating heavily, hallucinating and behaving in a way I hadn't seen before. He was sat at one end of the communal room at a table by himself away from everyone else. He couldn't stand on his own. I was greeted by staff member to say he had been aggressive with staff and residents and had a couple of falls although not hurt himself. I had gone to watch the football with him and asked if he could be moved to where the tv area was. Reply was 'don't know if he will let us he has been difficult all morning' and 'you need to keep him away from everyone else because he has been really nasty to them all'. I stayed through the first half but he wasn't able to watch, constantly talking to people he was visualizing. When I left I said to a care worker, I am going now can you keep an eye on George. The response was half-hearted at best. I called in to express my concerns to the Ward Manager, who is very good and has clearly read his file very thoroughly. When I mentioned that I felt his condition was due to medication, she was at pain to say he only been given 0.5 Loz. . . . and it would have worn off by now. I was very open with her and said I had reservations about him going there. It is a lovely place on the whole but I was concerned that they wouldn't be able to handle him. I She reassured me and said new patients often have a blip and she was confident they could manage although she was monitoring, as she said on day 1 with a view to applying for additional CHC funding for 1 to 1 care. Which backs up my point that I don;t think they have enough staff, or enough of the right staff to care for him.
Sorry to ramble on but I am not sure I can battle again, the last 12 months have sucked any energy I had left.
Sorry to ramble on but I am not sure I can battle again, the last 12 months have sucked any energy I had left.