Hi, I am hoping you can give me some advice to help me make a decision. In summary, my Grandmother was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s a few years ago after a fall and has progressively become worse. She has been in a home for some time now and is doubly incontinent, confused and sleeps most of the time. She recently has become un-responsive and either looks confused, or fed up with not understanding (may just be my “positive” interpretation) and sleeps. I was her favourite grandchild and my nan was a very proud person who I am convinced would not want me to see her like this; it is very upsetting for me to see her like this and I leave her in the main feeling frustrated that she is not in the right home (on going issuing with my mother which is allegedly being resolved – she is in a care home, not a nursing home and has been in/out of hospital due to a fall and UTI’s) I have been thinking about whether or not I continue to see her; out of her five grandchildren only myself and my sister see her regularly and I feel I owe it to her because of everything she did for me. A long time ago, when I first got interested in girls she said you will still come and see me….and I did, she and my wife knew each other very well and got on – we often went to see her; she enjoyed going out getting sandwich stuff for us to make lunch. My mother is not handling the situation very well, as despite what my wife suggest I cant put her under that kind of pressure asking her what she thinks; my wife see’s what it does to me and suggests I consider not seeing her. Please help, I am very emotional typing this even tho I am at my desk at work.