Can a PWD be left on their own for short periods

Discussion in 'I care for a person with dementia' started by Kennyboy, Nov 16, 2019.

  1. MrsV

    MrsV Registered User

    Apr 16, 2018
    120
    Northamptonshire
    Thank you for the info. It seems we are on our own, as Mum couldn't afford that at all. Her money would run out in a month. Mum already annoys her neighbours, and peole don't answer their doors anymore when they see its her, as she has no concept of day/night.
     
  2. Sirena

    Sirena Registered User

    Feb 27, 2018
    1,986
    Female
    The at-home care which SS offer is barely adequate, the maximum is usually 4 x 30 minutes, which is just helping the person wash, dress, and eat. So they would be alone for 22 hours a day, which for someone with dementia is very unlikely to work out well. The SW who saw my mother told me they can really only offer crisis care.
     
  3. maryjoan

    maryjoan Registered User

    Mar 25, 2017
    1,387
    Female
    South of the Border
    My next door neighbour aged 86, does not have dementia, is a bright lady, but keeps falling over and hurting herself - I have rescued her 4 times.
    She could have carers up to 4 times a day, but the last one left at 7pm and she was then alone until 9am the next day - too long - she was frightened. Her last fall saw her damaging her back and flooding the kitchen - she ended up in hospital and from there to a care home....... over night care in ones own home is hugely expensive if one is paying oneself....
     
  4. MrsV

    MrsV Registered User

    Apr 16, 2018
    120
    Northamptonshire

    Hello Maryjoan & Sirena,
    Many thanks. Mum lives alone, and only has very little in her bank, well below the 14k mark. So hopefully she will be entitled to some sort of paid carers coming in. The night time is going to be a huge problem for us, as a family we just cannot do this, its impossible. Mum rings us all hours of the night saying shes lonely, and wants to go out looking for dad (who passed away 30 years ago).
    When I went to visit Mum last night she opened the door and said 'Oh its you, its about time'! Your fathers not home from work again and YOU haven't shown your face for months' ! Yet I had spent the whole weekend with her, and Dad passed away 30yrs ago. Then came the verbal abuse and shouting at me, calling me allsorts, and saying your fathers got another woman, the neighbours have all seen her. Oh dear.
     
  5. Sirena

    Sirena Registered User

    Feb 27, 2018
    1,986
    Female
    MrsV, please contact Adult Services at SS and ask them for a needs assessment. By this stage your mother should be entitled to some help. Unfortunately if she tells the SW she does not want help, they won't force help on her. So partly it depends on whether your mother will accept their help.

    There will come a stage when she will have a crisis along the lines of the one experienced by maryjoan's neighbour, which will result in her getting proper care in a CH. But it is worth trying to get SS involved before that point.
     

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