Bye Bye Dad, you can "go home " now

katie1 · Jun 19, 2015

My lovely Daddy passed away just after midnight last night. He had been calm and happy in the nursing home that he was living in for the last 8 weeks, beginning to settle and joining in a few of the activities and enjoying going outside for walks. He was physically fit and active and could be humorous and a bit cheeky at times! He knew me and Mums names and gave us a lovely hug the other day. But yesterday evening as he was walking along the corridor, he slumped suddenly over to one side and collapsed. He was only semi conscious when the ambulance got there and the Nursing home staff did all they could. Me and Mum met him at the hospital and were by his side holding his hand and stroking his face as he passed away.
He went through a stage of always asking to go home even when he was at home, I believe a common trait of many with dementias....well Dad, yes now you can go home, now you can rest.
He was spared the indignities of the latter stages, he knew us, he was not incontinent, he could walk and could feed himself with prompting. I think it was for the best......although very very painfully sad

ellejay · Jun 19, 2015

I am so sorry Katie, thinking of you and your mum. Please accept my condolences x

Lin x

nellbelles · Jun 19, 2015

My condolences to you and your family, we are glad they are no longer fighting a difficult illness, but we miss them so much.

Wishing you all strength for the coming days.

CollegeGirl · Jun 19, 2015

I'm so very sorry to hear this Katie, please accept my condolences, although I can totally understand what you mean about him being spared the indignities of the later stages. I'm glad he was happy and settled in his last few weeks. Take care x

Kjn · Jun 19, 2015

Sorry to hear your news Katie , now he is at peace , give yourself time now xxx

CeliaW · Jun 19, 2015

My condolences Katie but so good you and your Mum were with him. Take care of yourselves xx

daisydi · Jun 19, 2015

So sorry for your loss Katie but please take some comfort from the fact that he didn't suffer the horrible end stages this disease dishes out and that he passed with dignity with you and your mum. God bless your dad

CCM2013 · Jun 19, 2015

Aww sending big hugs to you - I lost my dad at beginning of May - and am finding all the Fathers Day cards and merchandise very upsetting, thinking of you at this difficult time.

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Izzy · Jun 19, 2015

Oh Katie. How terribly sad. I'm so glad that you and your mum were with your dad as he passed away. Wishing you both strength. x

cragmaid · Jun 19, 2015

Safe journey home, Katie's Dad......and my sympathy to you and your family Katie.x

fredsnail · Jun 19, 2015

Sorry to hear of your loss Katie - I wish your Mum and you peace and strength for the days to come.

Gigglemore · Jun 19, 2015

So sorry for the loss of your lovely Daddy. Wishing you and your Mum strength to support each other at this very sad time.

jan.s · Jun 20, 2015

So sorry Katie for the loss of your Dad. I am thinking of you and your mum. X

brambles · Jun 20, 2015

So very sorry Katie. Glad you were able to be with your dad at the end. x

Tears Falling · Jun 20, 2015

Sending my condolences to you and your mum. Pleased to read your dad was settled and that you were able to be with him at the end.

reedysue · Jun 20, 2015

So sorry to hear of your sad loss.

patsy56 · Jun 20, 2015

sorry to hear take care

nannylondon · Jun 20, 2015

katie1 said: ↑

My lovely Daddy passed away just after midnight last night. He had been calm and happy in the nursing home that he was living in for the last 8 weeks, beginning to settle and joining in a few of the activities and enjoying going outside for walks. He was physically fit and active and could be humorous and a bit cheeky at times! He knew me and Mums names and gave us a lovely hug the other day. But yesterday evening as he was walking along the corridor, he slumped suddenly over to one side and collapsed. He was only semi conscious when the ambulance got there and the Nursing home staff did all they could. Me and Mum met him at the hospital and were by his side holding his hand and stroking his face as he passed away.
He went through a stage of always asking to go home even when he was at home, I believe a common trait of many with dementias....well Dad, yes now you can go home, now you can rest.
He was spared the indignities of the latter stages, he knew us, he was not incontinent, he could walk and could feed himself with prompting. I think it was for the best......although very very painfully sad
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Sending my condolences to you and your mum xx

Dazmum · Jun 20, 2015

I'm so sorry Katie,for you and your mum. I can completely understand what you say about your dad being spared the indignities, and he is now at peace. Thinking of you all xxx

jimbo 111 · Jun 20, 2015

katie1 said: ↑

My lovely Daddy passed away just after midnight last night. He had been calm and happy in the nursing home that he was living in for the last 8 weeks, beginning to settle and joining in a few of the activities and enjoying going outside for walks. He was physically fit and active and could be humorous and a bit cheeky at times! He knew me and Mums names and gave us a lovely hug the other day. But yesterday evening as he was walking along the corridor, he slumped suddenly over to one side and collapsed. He was only semi conscious when the ambulance got there and the Nursing home staff did all they could. Me and Mum met him at the hospital and were by his side holding his hand and stroking his face as he passed away.
He went through a stage of always asking to go home even when he was at home, I believe a common trait of many with dementias....well Dad, yes now you can go home, now you can rest.
He was spared the indignities of the latter stages, he knew us, he was not incontinent, he could walk and could feed himself with prompting. I think it was for the best......although very very painfully sad
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