Hello, I am new to this forum. My mother have recently been diagnosed with Alzheimer's Disease. Its has been a two year battle to get her referred for an Assessment with her G.P. I am her only daughter and I am profoundly deaf. It is very difficult to communicate with my mother as she can no longer operate a text phone. She rarely phones me but when she does my partner who is hearing takes her call and pass on her message onto me. So I have to phone her via typetalk or visit her in person. I worry something major will happen to her and she will be unable to text or phone me. She lives on her own in her flat and I told her she should get a panic alarm buttom for an emergency but she said she doesn't need one.
Over the past year I have noticed she have been buying food and leaving them lying in the kitchen. Not putting them in her fridge. Gradually I have noticed piles of plates, glasses and knifes, forks building up waiting to be washed up. I have broached this with her but she wont let me help her. In February I asked my partner to take my mother out to the shops and café as this would give me the opportunity to tackle the kitchen. I spent half the day clearing out the fridge and filling up 12 bags full of packets of food and drink that are well past their sell-by date. I washed up all the plates, cups, glasses etc. Since then the kitchen is piling with unopened food and washing-up. She has the heating on and the flat is starting to smell. This is uncharacteristic of her as she used to keep her kitchen tidy and always put the shopping away. She now thinks this is normal and wont accept any help. I would like her to have an cleaner to come in and clean the kitchen and flat. I spoke to her memory nurse and he advised me that I should contact Social Services. Do I need to an referral from her GP to get some home care? .My mother have always been independent and its difficult for her to accept she needs helps. I would welcome any advice please
Over the past year I have noticed she have been buying food and leaving them lying in the kitchen. Not putting them in her fridge. Gradually I have noticed piles of plates, glasses and knifes, forks building up waiting to be washed up. I have broached this with her but she wont let me help her. In February I asked my partner to take my mother out to the shops and café as this would give me the opportunity to tackle the kitchen. I spent half the day clearing out the fridge and filling up 12 bags full of packets of food and drink that are well past their sell-by date. I washed up all the plates, cups, glasses etc. Since then the kitchen is piling with unopened food and washing-up. She has the heating on and the flat is starting to smell. This is uncharacteristic of her as she used to keep her kitchen tidy and always put the shopping away. She now thinks this is normal and wont accept any help. I would like her to have an cleaner to come in and clean the kitchen and flat. I spoke to her memory nurse and he advised me that I should contact Social Services. Do I need to an referral from her GP to get some home care? .My mother have always been independent and its difficult for her to accept she needs helps. I would welcome any advice please