Hi well ive taken the plunge and brought my mum away with me for a week, i have had my holiday home for 11 years mum never wanted to come with me, but as she now lives with me thought i would give it a try. Hindsight a week is too much with her ive already got caravan fever and waiting for my husband to cone back down hes back in work. I have booked her in for respite for my next week down here, will stick to weekends in future long enough. The problem is i. Feeling slightly isolated so used to being able to go out and socialise go over to the sauna pool and gym, even the children are starting to feel fed up with all, cant get her to go out when im out its a bit of a nightmare etc, anyway moan over. Maybe tomoz she might ne up to going out in the wheelchair we can but hope.
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Well me again another early morning wake up call to the birds singing as mum is disoriented and cannot remember she is on holidays. Usually it happens ib the house, maybe later in the day it will come back to her who knows but im shattered again cant get back to sleep. Poor mum and us what a year. Next week after we return from holiday she is due to start day care more fun and confusion again in order for me to goto work And school starting back. Im giving myself until after xmas to see how things work out if we can make it that far. , but if not im going to have to consider a CH. As its not fair on mum, my children the burden of care for all of the above falls on me and im starting to frazzle a bit. See if i can go ack to sleep for a bit.
Oh Hengal I am so sorry about your holiday I found a week for my husband was too long a couple of nights is all that we manage now,
I read your first post in the early hours but didn't respond then when I woke up I saw this new post of yours,
It must be very difficult for you with having the children with you as well of course they want to go out and enjoy themselves and you want them to have a great holiday as well,
The last time I went with my husband for a week in a caravan the journey ther was horrendous and we had to keep stopping all the time and while we were there he slept all the time and I hardly got a chance to go out,
I am so sorry your holiday is being spoiled and respite next time might be the only way to go,
We now stay in a hotel when we go for a weekend but Allen wakes up and thinks he is at home or in a caravan or chalet or at the care home that he goes to the day centre and is very disorientated I don't think I would be able to cope if were other people to consider while we were away,
I hope things get better for you sorry i can't be much help ,
Best wishes Jeany x
I read your first post in the early hours but didn't respond then when I woke up I saw this new post of yours,
It must be very difficult for you with having the children with you as well of course they want to go out and enjoy themselves and you want them to have a great holiday as well,
The last time I went with my husband for a week in a caravan the journey ther was horrendous and we had to keep stopping all the time and while we were there he slept all the time and I hardly got a chance to go out,
I am so sorry your holiday is being spoiled and respite next time might be the only way to go,
We now stay in a hotel when we go for a weekend but Allen wakes up and thinks he is at home or in a caravan or chalet or at the care home that he goes to the day centre and is very disorientated I don't think I would be able to cope if were other people to consider while we were away,
I hope things get better for you sorry i can't be much help ,
Best wishes Jeany x
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One of those things if it wasnt that i have to meet my daughter friday would go home today. Shes been like a gremlin again, mess in bathroom rugs i put down to protect carpets moved, i thought i was losing it lol. The doctor upped her meds a few weeks ago and they seemed to work then but not Now. Kids now are tired and irritable, so much for good intentions, this dementia is indeed a cruel learning curve,maybe do a weekend next time and not on my own husband will have to come, I honestly dont know where she gets the strength from im absolutely shattered.com
Aw I really feel for you, it is such a shame , I hope you manage to get a bit rest, it's so disappointing when you have done what you thought was the right and nice thing and it all goes wrong,
Sending you a hug cos you sound as though you need one ,
Jeany xx
Sending you a hug cos you sound as though you need one ,
Jeany xx
Im never ever taking her for a week on my own again with the kids, definate respite. I havent had a proper sleep for a week every day is like groundhog i cant wait to go back to work, kids are bored as well now did as much as they can on park but cant take them down to the beach or anything. Picking daughter up tomorrow im glad that she seems to have had a good time just wish my other kids could say the same. I am off on a girlies weekend in a fortnight counting the days. Im glad mum has enjoyed though, been a change for her. I feel so mean, but this week has proven that I cannot be a full time carer and I have freat admiration to all of you that are. I will see how she gets on with me over the next few months me being in work and how she copes with daycare and carers coming in with us just home morning evenings and afternoon and reasses the situation again.
Poor you. You really have been through the mill this week. On a positive note; it’s clarified a lot of things for you all re the future. Chin up,
