My husband is a bully he claps his hands in anger at me if he dosent get just what he wants I am scared to said anything all husband and wifes have disagreements in normal life in dementia life its different with this illness he is a selfish nasty bullying man before this illness he was a lovely man would do anything for anyone I couldnt have wished for a better loving husband I was so happy now I try to remember the old hubby sometimes it's so hard I am not well myself
You don't have to put up with this treatment. There are other options... the question is, what direction do you want to go in?
You could:
1) leave him.
2) get social services to do an assessment, of your husband and also a carer's assessment for you, to see what help you both need.
3) following on from 2) you could get him into respite so you could get a break or move him to a care home (dependent on various things.)
4) you could phone the police next time he gets into a bullying mood. This might seem extreme but they would come and have a word... It would also mean there is a record should there be further incidents...
...which brings me to my next point: please make sure you have a safe place (i.e. room with a locked door) and your phone with you at all times in case things escalate and you need urgent help.
Please take care - I certainly couldn't live with someone who was 'selfish, nasty and bullying.'