Hello, I am new to posting on this website Since the middle of August my husband who is 76 and has mixed dementia ,has really become so much worse. An incident occurred at home and I reached the end of my rope. I called for help and OH went into respite for a week. Whilst there he continued to deteriorate and the home contacted the hospital. He was sectioned and taken there. He was in hospital for 10 weeks and was moved onto a section 3 in order to continue monitoring his response the changes in medication. He has had really bad periods of paranoia during this time, increased confusion, very disturbed sleep patterns in spite of sleeping meds. However visiting him has been quite pleasant on most occasions as he has been pleased to see me and saying lovely things to me. On two occasions he was almost like he used to be about 4 yrs ago. His mobility deteriorated over the last two weeks and he has had a couple of falls. At a meeting of best interests it was decided that a care home placement would be best. I struggled with this decision, and still struggling to accept that my lovely husband is so much worse. I have to accept that I can't look after him at home the way he is now but that feeling of " would this have happened if I hadn't called for help" is still with me. He went into care on Tuesday, and he is desperately unhappy, wants to get away, says I don't love him. Is it possible to ever get used to this?