We used to have privately arranged carers for my mum with me also visiting plus once a week visits from brother.
When covid-19 happened care was temporarily suspended as I live nearby and brother started looking after mother for a week at his home (20 miles away) with me looking after her with frequent visits to her home the other week. Brother and partner did not want care resuming in case carers give 94 year old mum covid-19 so we continued this.
Now brother and partner have had enough and think I should do more. I find it very tough. Mum told me I wasn't her daughter as her daughter is dead last week. They expect me to shower her but she refuses to do that for me and says she showered yesterday.
I have had enough but care homes are out if the question at the moment and brother doesn't want her going in care home. I am 57 but think I might die before my mother. Do others think these thoughts? My mum also scares me.
There is zero help out there so brother and me have to muddle through. Mum owns her own home and has some savings so even finding a suitable care home would be up to us.
There are no answers.
If mother does die before me I will probably disown my brother. Horrible disease isn't it.
When covid-19 happened care was temporarily suspended as I live nearby and brother started looking after mother for a week at his home (20 miles away) with me looking after her with frequent visits to her home the other week. Brother and partner did not want care resuming in case carers give 94 year old mum covid-19 so we continued this.
Now brother and partner have had enough and think I should do more. I find it very tough. Mum told me I wasn't her daughter as her daughter is dead last week. They expect me to shower her but she refuses to do that for me and says she showered yesterday.
I have had enough but care homes are out if the question at the moment and brother doesn't want her going in care home. I am 57 but think I might die before my mother. Do others think these thoughts? My mum also scares me.
There is zero help out there so brother and me have to muddle through. Mum owns her own home and has some savings so even finding a suitable care home would be up to us.
There are no answers.
If mother does die before me I will probably disown my brother. Horrible disease isn't it.