Brother Is Worried About Me Sending The Will To The Probate Office

[love.dad.but..]

Thankyou you two. Yes I won't respond and I remember when I put all the papers in the envelope I put them in individually with the Will being first, then the death certificate and the cover letter on top. The tears on the Will and cover letter could have happened during transit or when the envelope was opened either way it was an accident.

MaNaAk

PS: I have enjoyed doing the clearing as it is very therapeutic and I am still in contact with my friends. Also @Lovedadbut the memory of dad with resident B's walking stick still brings a laugh.

The better funny memories of my dad, like yours, always brings a smile to my face....walking stick stand offs and one of my favourites dad in the back of the ambulance with pink diamonte glasses on, the rest of us trying to stifle a giggle! I give you permission to cheer yourself in down moments to think also of that vision!

 

[Sarasa]

Sometimes I wonder if your brothers are trying to gaslight you @MaNaAk , so you think that everything is your fault and therefore when the house is sold you give your brothers the lions share of the profits to compensate them for the 'trouble' you've caused them. I hope I'm wrong, but I'd have as little to do with them as possible, as I think things aren't going to change. Hope your therapist can help you through it all {{{hugs}}}

 

[MaNaAk]

The better funny memories of my dad, like yours, always brings a smile to my face....walking stick stand offs and one of my favourites dad in the back of the ambulance with pink diamonte glasses on, the rest of us trying to stifle a giggle! I give you permission to cheer yourself in down moments to think also of that vision!

I remember you telling us that he once wore a blouse!

MaNaAk

 

[canary]

Yes, Im another one saying dont respond to the email - it will only add fuel to the fire and you neither need, not deserve that.

Your brothers have a highly optimistic view of when they can get their money and I agree that they probably think that it is you delaying things, whereas, in reality, their own interference is slowing things down.

Well done with clearing and definitely try and think of the better times
xxx

 

[MaNaAk]

Sometimes I wonder if your brothers are trying to gaslight you @MaNaAk , so you think that everything is your fault and therefore when the house is sold you give your brothers the lions share of the profits to compensate them for the 'trouble' you've caused them. I hope I'm wrong, but I'd have as little to do with them as possible, as I think things aren't going to change. Hope your therapist can help you through it all {{{hugs}}}

The therapist is very good and I've got receipts showing my contributions to the house going back years.

MaNaAk

PS: I've also got the strength from somewhere.

 

[MaNaAk]

Yes, Im another one saying dont respond to the email - it will only add fuel to the fire and you neither need, not deserve that.

Your brothers have a highly optimistic view of when they can get their money and I agree that they probably think that it is you delaying things, whereas, in reality, their own interference is slowing things down.

Well done with clearing and definitely try and think of the better times
xxx

Yes I was willing to use a solicitor but they wanted to do it online!

MaNaAk

PS: I haven't got anything against doing probate online but they or rather my sister-in-law did it in their own time.

 

[MaNaAk]

Yes, Im another one saying dont respond to the email - it will only add fuel to the fire and you neither need, not deserve that.

Your brothers have a highly optimistic view of when they can get their money and I agree that they probably think that it is you delaying things, whereas, in reality, their own interference is slowing things down.

Well done with clearing and definitely try and think of the better times
xxx

Yes three diabetics at the same table all deaf and two with dementia and dad being moved to another table because of the noise.

MaNaAk

 

[lemonbalm]

I think today is a good day to not look at any more e-mails @MaNaAk . I agree, just let it go and have a peaceful day.

 

[Bunpoots]

You can’t change your brothers @MaNaAk but you can change the way you respond to them. I think they’re being very selfish so try to ignore them and take your time to sort yourself out.

 

[love.dad.but..]

I remember you telling us that he once wore a blouse!

MaNaAk

Oh yes quite a few times.....from a gentleman who always wore shirt and tie...which he had on underneath of course!

 

[MaNaAk]

I found dad with two shirts on and @lemonbalm and @jennifer1967 I am just off to the Coop.

MaNaAk

 

[jennifer1967]

good. can i ask is there a trench path between you and the co-op?

 

[MaNaAk]

No but all I have to do is go up the road and turn left.

MaNaAk

 

[nita]

Hello Everyone.

I've found an email from my sister-in-law containing photos of the cover letter with a tear in the lower left hand corner and the death certificate with an old tear that was (I have a vague memory of taping this tear but it would have been a long time ago). I don't know how to respond to this but I feel rather useless. Does anyone know how or if I should respond?

Interestingly my latest questionnaire from the therapist arrived.

MaNaAk

I just wondered where she got this photo from? Did the Probate Office send it to your brother? I thought they were dealing with you but perhaps that was before they had your new email address. Anyway, as others say, don't give it another thought. The tear didn't obscure anything important did it.

 

[MaNaAk]

Dear @nita,

They sent it to my brother who was dealing with the Probate but as I posted the Will they tried to send emails to me but I had changed my email address. Yes it's best not to respond although it looks the tears could have happened when the documents were removed from the envelope.

MaNaAk