Brother Is Worried About Me Sending The Will To The Probate Office
- Thread starter MaNaAk
- Start date
Hello again.
I have an email from the eldest of my two brothers saying that he would like the declaration to be sent off today and asking my other brother to come round and send it off. He also asked if I remember putting sellotape around a tear in the death certificate but I don't remember this so I didn't answer. My other brother has said that he will come round this evening to send it and I am typing an email saying that I look forward to seeing him but I will be wearing a mask because we're not supposed to be meeting indoors. I am typing my declaration in this email and I find this very stressful.
Thankyou for reading this again.
MaNaAk
I have an email from the eldest of my two brothers saying that he would like the declaration to be sent off today and asking my other brother to come round and send it off. He also asked if I remember putting sellotape around a tear in the death certificate but I don't remember this so I didn't answer. My other brother has said that he will come round this evening to send it and I am typing an email saying that I look forward to seeing him but I will be wearing a mask because we're not supposed to be meeting indoors. I am typing my declaration in this email and I find this very stressful.
Thankyou for reading this again.
MaNaAk
Tears in death certificate don't matter, the concern with a corner torn of the will is that an attachment has been removed.
Today, tomorrow, or even Monday is not going to make much difference, the probate office will not regard it as urgent.
Having said that if you can manage to get your explanation typed up, put in an envelope, and posted, you can email both of them saying 'job done, no need to come'.
This will give you more 'biscuit time' and avoid having to see them.
Today, tomorrow, or even Monday is not going to make much difference, the probate office will not regard it as urgent.
Having said that if you can manage to get your explanation typed up, put in an envelope, and posted, you can email both of them saying 'job done, no need to come'.
This will give you more 'biscuit time' and avoid having to see them.
Oh goodness why are they causing you so much unnecessary stress. I agree with @nitram, another couple of days makes no difference and if you can, get the required information typed and put in an envelope ready for the ‘visit’.
It may be sensible not to seal the envelope so your brother can check it in front of you so he doesn’t start asking questions once it’s been sent.
I'd be inclined not to let him into the house, you could say you don’t want to be fined for not following government guidelines. Easier said than done, I know.
Get those treats line up @MaNaAk
It may be sensible not to seal the envelope so your brother can check it in front of you so he doesn’t start asking questions once it’s been sent.
I'd be inclined not to let him into the house, you could say you don’t want to be fined for not following government guidelines. Easier said than done, I know.
Get those treats line up @MaNaAk
Thankyou @ Nitram.
I am afraid that I am in tears I write this as you are all so wonderful. I was in tears as I watched TV this morning about the war veterans . I have sent the email to my brothers to see what they think of the declaration and I will see if they respond but otherwise I might do as you say and send it straight off especially if I don't have a humane answer.
MaNaAk
I am afraid that I am in tears I write this as you are all so wonderful. I was in tears as I watched TV this morning about the war veterans . I have sent the email to my brothers to see what they think of the declaration and I will see if they respond but otherwise I might do as you say and send it straight off especially if I don't have a humane answer.
MaNaAk
Also why couldn't emails have been passed on to me and I obviously should have said that the declaration should have come from my computer and then we wouldn't be in this mess. Part of me is angry at the fact that my eldest brother talks about all the work they did on the inheritance tax and probate and all the admin and caring that I did hasn't had a look in. I am trying to be diplomatic but it is very difficult.
MaNaAk
MaNaAk
Any control you have was by their default, one of them could have finished the job they started by collecting the will from the solicitor and sending it to the probate office.
Any control you have was by their default, one of them could have finished the job they started by collecting the will from the solicitor and sending it to the probate office.
Actually @nitram my youngest brother did offer but of course I wanted to do it but with hindsight I should have let him send it!
MaNaAk
Sorry, a bit late into the conversation. Good grief. What a palaver your gannet siblings are making of this. Tell them to respond quickly because it's going in the post this afternoon (can't it go by e-mail?) , then go off and do something nice - a walk with fish and chips. I would tell your brother that he can't come over this evening. Visiting in houses in not allowed (so there).
you can go for a walk with another person from different household. one way to meet and you can sit on the benches in the park longs socially distanced
Good for you. You have control. I do like @nitram's concept of having "more biscuit time" by the way.
Recent Threads
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
Care home threatening to kick mum out - help please
- Latest: Unknowndaughter01
-
