Hi I haven’t been on this site for a long time as my husband was settled in a care home when his needs and behaviour became too much for me to manage. He has now been there for three years, supported by CHC funding and up until March this year I visited regularly and all was well. As you are only too aware, visiting in these last terrible months has been minimal and impersonal to say the least. I am shocked to learn as of yesterday that his care home has been rated inadequate by CQC following a series of inspections in the summer. We relatives have been assured, by letter, from the group that own the home that they are working hard to address the shortcomings and have already made significant improvements.
Husband’s condition has obviously deteriorated in the last three years, and has taken quite a severe downturn in recent months. He is no longer mobile and has very little speech, none comprehensible. He is doubly incontinent and cannot do anything for himself at all. He isn’t the physically strong man he was when he went into care, and the aggression is all but gone so in that respect would be easier to manage I think. I feel we are nearing the end.
I would like to be able to bring him home. But where on earth do you start? I owe it to him to do my best for him.
Husband’s condition has obviously deteriorated in the last three years, and has taken quite a severe downturn in recent months. He is no longer mobile and has very little speech, none comprehensible. He is doubly incontinent and cannot do anything for himself at all. He isn’t the physically strong man he was when he went into care, and the aggression is all but gone so in that respect would be easier to manage I think. I feel we are nearing the end.
I would like to be able to bring him home. But where on earth do you start? I owe it to him to do my best for him.