Dear All Thanks firstly for being there. I was just wondering does anybody have any advicce regards bowels and trying to instigate regularity and routine. I am struggling with my dad in that he has always been a regular guy we now find that he is manually evacuating himself about twice a week and has no idea what to do with the toilet despite us sitting him on it and talking him through it all very difficult. He has started to be a little incontinent with urine and sometimes doesn;t make it to the toilet or sink which ever is nearest. He goes to a day centre which are wonderful and they say they try to make him sit but he doesn;t manage to wee unless standing. I remeber somebody mentioning about the colour of the toilet seat is important but cannot remember the advice. We also have and intermittent problem with swallowing dad just not knowing what to do. Please help Thank you.