How do people cope with this type of thing. I'm finding it very difficult to deal with as both parents have vascular dementia and are very difficult to deal with. Mum has always been independent and won't allow me to even change the bed. I worry she's not washing and doesn't seem to change her clothes. Dad has carers coming in 3 times a day but mum doesn't have any carers and has only had a diagnosis in recent months. I can't write here all the problems I seem to be experiencing with them as there are so many. I'm the eldest of five but have little support from my brothers and sisters and seem to have to deal with things by myself. It's making me ill because I worry about them all the time and I have problems sleeping. I'm retired now but have been dealing with matters since about 2009 and while I was working had to take time off work. Then it was just dad but now it's mum and dad which is what I was worried would happen. I'm very lucky to have a very supportive husband.