Hi all - some advice please. Mother is 76 and had brain haemorrhage 3 years ago - they now say she has vascular dementia, I am sometimes not convinced as I feel sometimes she has been labelled as such rather than saying she has a brain injury . Anyway long story she went into a residential home on Monday. She has been awful - agitated crying confused and desperate to come home. She went into hospital as she didn't recognise her home as home and started wandering etc - she has a shunt in her brain and they admitted her as they wanted to ensure there wasn't a medical cause. The Ct confirmed no change though and they out it down to dementia. I just wonder how she would be at home as she is on memantine now and was quite settled in hospital. Her obsession with going home is so difficult to deal with and I know it's very early days at the residential home but I'm just not sure we have done the right thing. Has anyone felt like this and been tempted to bring their loved one home - what is the maximum csre social services will give? Our family situation isn't great - I'm chronically ill and recovering from perforated bowel and my sister has very young children. No one else seems interested in helping but very vocal as to the fact she is in a home. I feel overwhelmed.