Grim Day. Holiday booked care home sorted out for respite care with the most likely outcome being that this would be become a permanent place. Its somewhere father has gone to day care for the last six months although he doesn't remember that he goes there and without prompting he has said he could stay there while I am on holiday. . He is self funding. Come to fill the papers in and I haven't got a H and W power of attorney but to have financial and legal and father doesn't have capacity to make decisions himself. Spoken to Social Services and they will do the best interests meeting after a capacity assessment as soon as they can. Fortunately this is take off day minus 10 but I am not telling them that. I do have commitments to things like packing , shutting house up and elderly mother in law as well as father who lives with me. And I want to see father settled before I go because if he needs anything else from the house he has to have it before I leave. I have not had to do this with any other care home I have dealt with. I understand the reasons and know it will have to be done.
He is willing to go into home when I am on holiday and when husband has medical stuff which will happen when we come back.
The question is should I get this best interests meeting to deal with who can take father out of care home and where they can go as well as the actual point of whether he should live there. I have put it to him that this is like sheltered housing and he can sleep there but still carry on doing lots of the things he enjoys with his family e.g. going out to eat food, going out to eat cake, listen to concerts, go to family celebrations, go and walk in the park ..possibly visit family further afield on the train... and possibly stay overnight at seaside because he was brought up by the sea and he does enjoy visiting it. None of these trips would be made independently he would have an escort at all times. Or is this too complicated and should I just stick to the residency. Should I specify who could escort him out of the home. There is no family issue at stake here all his grandchildren are competent and dependable.
He is willing to go into home when I am on holiday and when husband has medical stuff which will happen when we come back.
The question is should I get this best interests meeting to deal with who can take father out of care home and where they can go as well as the actual point of whether he should live there. I have put it to him that this is like sheltered housing and he can sleep there but still carry on doing lots of the things he enjoys with his family e.g. going out to eat food, going out to eat cake, listen to concerts, go to family celebrations, go and walk in the park ..possibly visit family further afield on the train... and possibly stay overnight at seaside because he was brought up by the sea and he does enjoy visiting it. None of these trips would be made independently he would have an escort at all times. Or is this too complicated and should I just stick to the residency. Should I specify who could escort him out of the home. There is no family issue at stake here all his grandchildren are competent and dependable.
