It's been nearly 3 weeks since my mum came to live with us, and up untill tonight it's been going well, she's had lots of stimulation from the kids and dogs being around and me taking care of her to the point I'm neglecting my family, and she hasn't wandered off once since she's been here, so that's a positive. Today tho I had to go out and see someone about my son and his future, and my daughter started back at work today, and my hubby is off on leave this week, and kids on half term, so we had a weekly shop to do, so we had to go out, I made sure mum was all fed and watered and showered and hair washed and dressed before we left, and she was In good spirits, but I think i left mum on her own too long, because when I got back, she looked through me like glass, and she had wet her self because she forget where the toilet was, and she was full of hate and resentment towards me, she refused to eat her dinner and take her medications, saying she's not going to take any more pills because I'm poisoning her, and then she started saying she has no rights, and she doesn't want be here and she wants to go home to my home and be with Yvonne her daughter, (which is me) when I said mum you are home and with Yvonne, she told me not to lie to her, so it's safe to say she's very confused this evening. The thing is, in the morning we have an advocate coming over to talk to my mum, which has been re-ferred from the social workers, because they say my mum told them more than once that she didn't want to leave her home and didn't want to live with me, but then she was telling me and the carer's that she wasn't doing very well on her own and she wants to go and live with me to keep her safe, so now the social workers seem to think I've forced her against her will and moved her in with me, which I can assure you I haven't done, but I'm worried that if she's in this mood in the morning when the advocate comes next tells her what she's been saying to me all evening, then she's going to go back to the social workers who already have it In for me it seems, and this will look bad on me, and they've told me they can make my mum a ward of court, and strip my POA away from me, and do what they will with my mother. It's causing a great deal of stress, and I'm doing everything in my power to keep my mother safe with everything else in between, and all this could be screwed all depending on my mother's mental state at the time she gets interviewed by the advocate, and whether she says the right or wrong thing, could determine whether it works out or goes drastically wrong and the social workers end up putting her into a care home against mine and her wills. My mother says she doesn't want to go into a care home, and they can't make her, and she's going to tell them to hiss off, so she moves in with us because sheltered ACCOM was a nightmare, so you see what I'm dealing with I feel miserable, I'm dammed if I do and dammed if I don't, I hate this.