Good Evening
My Father suffers from Vascular Dementia. We believe him to be in the later stages of the disease. He has huge memory loss, struggles to speak to us, fails to identify family members although shows basic signs of recognition - but on occasions he can seem almost lucid although this is happening less and less.
Apart from 3 weeks respite in a care home he has been cared for by my mother at home. At present he is in an NHS hospital recovering from having fallen and broken his leg.
Yesterday my mother died and the family's dilemma is as to whether to tell my father or to say nothing. We do not wish to cause him any more anguish but feel that he may have a right to know although we believe we don't have a right to cause him grief and upset. Opinion is very divided between family and friends.
Do you have a view on this? Your opinion would be welcomed.
Regards
T Lancaster
My Father suffers from Vascular Dementia. We believe him to be in the later stages of the disease. He has huge memory loss, struggles to speak to us, fails to identify family members although shows basic signs of recognition - but on occasions he can seem almost lucid although this is happening less and less.
Apart from 3 weeks respite in a care home he has been cared for by my mother at home. At present he is in an NHS hospital recovering from having fallen and broken his leg.
Yesterday my mother died and the family's dilemma is as to whether to tell my father or to say nothing. We do not wish to cause him any more anguish but feel that he may have a right to know although we believe we don't have a right to cause him grief and upset. Opinion is very divided between family and friends.
Do you have a view on this? Your opinion would be welcomed.
Regards
T Lancaster