We have just buried our 38 year old sonH My husband has frontotemporal dementia and understood very little of what the funeral service was about.
he has very little thought processes and cannot show emotions much. I knew that he would want to get back to his usual routine as if nothing had happened and I knew I would find that difficult. It is as if he has airbrushed our son out of his life, although I accept that this is his illness and lack of comprehension. I felt hurt as expected but never expected it to hurt so ,like a knife turning. After 5 years of coping on my own,I find having to cope with the loss of a child on my own so difficult. It is affecting my reactions to him and I as if I can't cry or mourn in front of him. Friends and neighbours are marvellous but the one person I want to give me a hug and sympathise can't do it.
Please how have others coped with bereavments?
Susie
he has very little thought processes and cannot show emotions much. I knew that he would want to get back to his usual routine as if nothing had happened and I knew I would find that difficult. It is as if he has airbrushed our son out of his life, although I accept that this is his illness and lack of comprehension. I felt hurt as expected but never expected it to hurt so ,like a knife turning. After 5 years of coping on my own,I find having to cope with the loss of a child on my own so difficult. It is affecting my reactions to him and I as if I can't cry or mourn in front of him. Friends and neighbours are marvellous but the one person I want to give me a hug and sympathise can't do it.
Please how have others coped with bereavments?
Susie