Can anyone help? My father looked after my mother at home for 9 years, after she was diagnosed with dementia. After 60 years of very happy marriage, my father recently died in August (he had a brain tumour) , but my mother usually doesn´t remember. She asks where he is all the time. Sometimes we try to change the subject, or ignore the question, but when we ask her where she thinks he is, she remembers, but every day, it is like the first day for her and it can be many, many times in one day. She is grieving so much, we don't know what to do. Initially she was prescribed a mild tranquiliser that seemed to help, but that has now been stopped. My brother and I are completely at a loss. Mum lives in a residential home where she and my Dad went after he was unable to look after her any more, and where he sadly died. She has made some friends but they are starting to avoid her because she is upset so much of the time. Also her dementia seems to have got worse. Can anyone suggest ways to help her? We would appreciate any advice you can give.