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Being detained

yorkshirerosie

Registered User
Jul 14, 2010
58
cheshire
Mum is being assessed under the mental health act today and I have been warned that it is highly likely she will be detained under section 2 of the mental health act.
I feel like I've failed her
 

Tin

Registered User
May 18, 2014
4,825
UK
A miracle cure is all that will stop the consequences and fallout from this disease. Not your fault, not your illness to do not let the guilt take control, stay strong for your mum
 

susy

Registered User
Jul 29, 2013
801
North East
Noooo you have certainly NOT failed her. Please please don't do this to yourself. This disease is awful, it robs a person of themselves and they become unsafe and need help in looking after themselves. Whilst in care they can regain some form of dignity. But most of all they are warm, fed, watered, clean and comfortable. They also maybe upset at the change in routine and circumstances but they do have others around them 24 hours a day.

I hope you feel better soon xxx
 

sue38

Registered User
Mar 6, 2007
10,854
52
Wigan, Lancs
You have certainly not failed your mum. This is simply an indication of how ill she is. If she had cancer and was assessed as needing chemotherapy would you feel like you had failed her?

I hope the assessment leads to your mum getting the care she needs.
 

Jesskle66

Registered User
Jul 5, 2014
99
Just echoing what others have said. If she is sectioned it is an indication of how very ill she is as they do not section unless they are absolutely sure it is necessary. My mum was under section 2, then extended to section 3 and we have just been told that she she is going to under section 3 for a further 6 months. It has been a tough lesson to step back and let the professionals deal with it, and I am only now accepting it with less guilt. Try to think of it in terms of a physical illness, if she had a broken leg and you didn't seek medical help it would be the opposite of caring, it would be cruelty.
If she is sectioned try to take time for yourself. She will have round the clock care. If she is moved onto a section 3 after a month, then she will be entitled to free care afterwards, either in a care home or in her own home. Do not underestimate what an enormous relief that can be.
 

yorkshirerosie

Registered User
Jul 14, 2010
58
cheshire
Thank you for your words everyone.
I understand what you are saying and realise that you are right, I need to let the professionals take control of the situation and hope they find the right medication to stop her from being so frightened and distressed .
Thank you x
 

Not so Rosy

Registered User
Nov 30, 2013
578
Dad was sectioned in May last year and apart from the initial shock it was probably the only time I could actually relax a bit and catch up with some sleep and jobs I had been putting off for a few years.

He was uber safe in a lovely facility with full on nurses and a Consultant Phsychiatrist always on hand. Along with other residents relatives we never wanted our loved ones to leave there.
 

SarahL

Registered User
Dec 1, 2012
229
I empathise with you as my Mum got sectioned under section 2 of the MHA at the end of November and has been in a CH since December. Although I had suffered terrible abuse for years it was a very painful experience for me to see her sectioned and to leave her in hospital to be assessed. Four months on she is in the CH and I go in to see her every other day, she is on medication and she is safe now. She asks to go home a lot but the most wonderful thing is that she is now very happy to see me, tells me she loves me and after all the hard times this has helped me love her again as I lost sight of everything in the dark days of the disease when it twisted everything. This disease is what puts us in the situation so please do not blame yourself in any way, we would never choose this path in life but we have to try to adapt and manage it the best way possible. I am sure you have done your utmost but in the end we cannot do everything and intervention is needed. All the best, keep us posted. x
 

Grannie G

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Apr 3, 2006
71,100
Kent
It`s such a sad and worrying time yorkshirerosie. It`s certainly not a time for guilt.

This illness your mother has is at the stage when she needs specialist intervention and I expect it is even more upsetting to you than it is to your mum.