I posted to tell you that my Mum died on 3 April, 2014
Her funeral on the 17th went much as to be expected. One sister turned her back on me when I tried to speak to her, she was late arriving after the coffin and there was no floral tribute. The other sister is speaking to me but it is still a very tense conversation. Both sisters have been part of the "invisibles" group until yesterday when the one who is speaking to me came with a van and her husband and removed as many of mum's belongings that they could get in the van. I really didn't want anything that had belonged to my mother, I have no children therefore it makes sense to pass all on to members of the family but they phoned at 9.20 to say they would hire a van and were here by 11.00 a.m. it all happened in such a rush it has left a bad taste! So in just a couple of days I go to the solicitor to sign the necessary papers for Probate and hopefully in just the month I will finish with the whole sad and sorry saga of a lovely Mum who had dementia and in the process tore our whole family apart. I grieve not just for Mum but the loss of two sisters also.
I am signing off now dear TP forum and thank you all for all the kind help over the last few years and ask that the moderator will remove me from the forum say in about a week please. I am hoping to get a little holiday to help me breathe and say goodbye quietly to my mum.
Her funeral on the 17th went much as to be expected. One sister turned her back on me when I tried to speak to her, she was late arriving after the coffin and there was no floral tribute. The other sister is speaking to me but it is still a very tense conversation. Both sisters have been part of the "invisibles" group until yesterday when the one who is speaking to me came with a van and her husband and removed as many of mum's belongings that they could get in the van. I really didn't want anything that had belonged to my mother, I have no children therefore it makes sense to pass all on to members of the family but they phoned at 9.20 to say they would hire a van and were here by 11.00 a.m. it all happened in such a rush it has left a bad taste! So in just a couple of days I go to the solicitor to sign the necessary papers for Probate and hopefully in just the month I will finish with the whole sad and sorry saga of a lovely Mum who had dementia and in the process tore our whole family apart. I grieve not just for Mum but the loss of two sisters also.
I am signing off now dear TP forum and thank you all for all the kind help over the last few years and ask that the moderator will remove me from the forum say in about a week please. I am hoping to get a little holiday to help me breathe and say goodbye quietly to my mum.