I'm new to talking point - and in fact to the whole looking for help/support thing. My Dad was diagnosed with Alzheimer's in March. He thinks there's nothing wrong with him (obviously) and so do alot of people who know him, because he has absolutely no interest in anything and never has had. His life has been about going to work and going to the pub an nothing else. Since my mother died 20 years ago he has had no involvment with his own finances, bills, appointments etc, that's all left to me. He has had a 'lady friend' for 16 years who spends the evening and night and breakfast time with him but they would each do their own thing during the day. Now that my dad can't drive anymore he wants to spend more time with her but she's not really interested,(they don't live together). My problem is that she is obsessed with illness - it's all she ever talks about, but when my Dad needed to go to the hospital she didn't call an ambulance for him, she just held his hand. He's been in hospital for 4 days, when he came out I arranged his medication, food etc and asked if she could just make sure he had the correct medication during the night. When she messed it up I said I would come and give it to him each day and night, she started ranting on about looking after him all these years, anyway - a big row followed. So now I can't be anywhere near the woman - she had had my Dad laid on his back in bed with the weight of a FULL hot water bottle on his lower stomach ALL NIGHT - no wonder he has severe pain this morning. But she never gave him any pain relief. I specifically asked her not to do this. Anyway because my Dad is scared to be in the house on his own at night he insists that she does a good job of looking after him. So my problem is that I need some assistance from somewhere, to tell the pair of them how to go on, because they don't listen to me - but I don't know where to get it from.