Bathroom mirror, causing distress.

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  1. Ashburton

    Ashburton Registered User

    Feb 19, 2007
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    Has anyone ever come across this before. Over the last week anytime my mum goes into the bathroom, she is talking to her reflection in the mirror. Initially this was not a problem but now she gets quite annoyed and tells the reflection to go away,if I am in the bathroom, she tells my reflection to go away also, I don't think she recognises the person as herself, the result being that I have had to cover the mirror with paper in two of the bathrooms. Does anyone recognise this symptom.
     
  2. Sandy

    Sandy Registered User

    Mar 23, 2005
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  3. Ashburton

    Ashburton Registered User

    Feb 19, 2007
    99
    Thanks Sandy, should have done a search, but wow, familiar stories.As said with my mum things started off ok with the people in the mirror, but now,while it is not agressive as such, she obviously is not comfortable with it. Actually she blames me for bringing them in, while not a probem at home now as I have covered up mirrors, it can be a problem when she goes to the toilet when we are out.
     
  4. jc141265

    jc141265 Registered User

    Sep 16, 2005
    836
    Australia
    Yup been there too.

    In fact it got so bad that we would dread being anywhere there were reflections as Dad would yell at the reflections at the top of his voice no matter where we were.

    You never realise how much we are surrounded by reflections...walking past car windows you get reflections, walking past shops you get reflections, staying in hotels we'd have to cover the mirrors, at the hospital we had to drape a sheet over the full size mirror in the toilet...

    I think part of the problem was because his reflection always looked angry or confused...so he assumed it was a 'bad man' (his words).

    Now tho, I'm not sure he knows its him again, but he doesn't seem as concerned but he definetly is always curious about that other man.

    Something that has helped for us, is to touch Dad on the face while he is looking at the reflection and by doing so this shows him it is his reflection i think, in that he feels the touch on the nose and sees the reflection getting touched on the nose at the same time...What always worked for me was to explain to Dad that he was just seeing a reflection...in a very calm voice, not making it sound like he was stupid or crazy...just saying to him 'Remember Dad that is your reflection, remember you have trouble recognising reflections now, see its a reflection because there am I (point to my nose so my reflection does too) and thats your reflection (touch him on the nose)'. I didn't work if I just pointed to the reflection, it only worked if I touched him and said it.

    Don't know if that will work for you...but you never know...

    Otherwise the trick is to get quick at anticipating reflections that they might see and distracting them from it before they noticed it.

    Good luck.
     
  5. Grommit

    Grommit Registered User

    Apr 26, 2006
    2,127
    Doncaster
    Jean spends most of her waking hours talking to her reflection in any shiny object in the house.

    I covered the mirrors up sometime ago and that led to her talking to her hands and hitting one hand with the other, very violently.

    She seems to be much more settled now the mirrors are uncovered and laughs, waves, offers food, drinki and talks to the person she sees in there.

    All quite harmless at the moment.
     
  6. connie

    connie Registered User

    Mar 7, 2004
    9,519
    Frinton-on-Sea
    Some months ago now Lionel suddenly said "I wonder what I look like now?"

    Unfortunately he does not seem to focus, or maybe interpret what it is he is looking at.

    Glad Jean is happierwith that aspect of things. Take care now,
     
  7. sunny

    sunny Registered User

    Sep 1, 2006
    598
    Mirrors

    Yes, come across this with Mum. She waves to the person in the mirror or looks very intently at the person (but she does not recognise herself)she finds it fascinating. It does not upset her so I leave her be with it, just looking sometimes.
    The strangest thing is though when I stand behind her and look with her I think she might recognise me. How odd!
     
  8. CraigC

    CraigC Registered User

    Mar 21, 2003
    6,630
    London
    #8 CraigC, Aug 8, 2010
    Last edited: Aug 8, 2010
    Apologies, posted on wrong thread, way too many windows open :eek:
    Please ignore

    Hi Asburton,

    I posted about this a little while back. Dad had a lot of hallucinations particularly with mirrors. I know in one of dads residential homes they removed all mirrors as many residents found the reflection or what hey were seeing upsetting.

    This factsheet may also be helpful:
     
  9. Onlyme

    Onlyme Registered User

    Apr 5, 2010
    4,999
    UK
    I have just realised that there are mirrors in the bathroom but nothing else thoughout Mum's care home.
     
  10. Starshine

    Starshine Registered User

    May 19, 2009
    247
    Seaside
    Oh what a shame, I believe its that they just don't recognise themselves, we continually go through our picture books of photos with Auntie, she just doesn't recognise herself in many of them, but instantly knows herself in much older family photos, she is obviously remembering herself how she used to be, she will often argue 'don't be daft thats not me in that photo - nothing like me' So very sad. But luckily mirrors have never been a problem through any of our experiences.

    Starshine x
     

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