1. Expert Q&A: Living well as a carer - Thurs 29 August, 3-4pm

    As a carer for a person living with dementia, the needs of the person you care for will often come before your own. You may experience a range of difficult emotions and you may not have the time to do all the things you need to do. Caring can have a big impact on both your mental and physical health, as well as your overall wellbeing.

    Angelo, our Knowledge Officer (Wellbeing) is our expert on this topic. He will be here to answer your questions on Thursday 29 August between 3-4pm.

    You can either post questions >here< or email them to us at talkingpoint@alzheimers.org.uk and we'll answer as many as we can on the day.

Barbara Lost the battle to Alzheimer's

Discussion in 'Welcome and how to use Dementia Talking Point' started by Pete J, Sep 18, 2017.

  1. Pete J

    Pete J Registered User

    Jul 19, 2012
    22
    Thank you all for your help and support over the past years.
    My Wife sadly passed away on 28th August 2017 age 66.
    Although it was expected, I was in total denial. Alzheimer's was never going to take my Barbara away from me, and it has hit me so hard.
    I have known her foe 50 years and if she had hung on for just three more days we would have been Married for 48 years.
    I now have some very hard times ahead.
    Thinking of you all
    Pete.
     
  2. ellejay

    ellejay Registered User

    Jan 28, 2011
    4,014
    Essex
    I am so sorry to hear this sad news, Pete. Please accept my condolences .

    Be gentle with yourself

    Lin x
     
  3. Cat27

    Cat27 Volunteer Moderator

    Feb 27, 2015
    10,067
    Merseyside
    I'm so sorry Pete. My thoughts are with you.
     
  4. LynneMcV

    LynneMcV Volunteer Moderator

    May 9, 2012
    3,459
    south-east London
    I am so sorry to hear your sad news Peter. We can never truly be prepared for this moment. Thinking of you and wishing you strength and support during such an overwhelming loss.
     
  5. Shedrech

    Shedrech Volunteer Moderator

    Dec 15, 2012
    7,739
    Yorkshire
    sad news Pete J
    sending you much sympathy
    thank you for letting us know
    I'm glad TP has been a support to you - we continue to be here, so do post if we can help
    best wishes
     
  6. LadyA

    LadyA Registered User

    Oct 19, 2009
    13,478
    Ireland
    Sorry to hear your news, Pete. I think, even though we know it's coming, Dementia is such a long lasting and gradual illness, that we do come to think that it's never really going to come to its end. My condolences to you.
     
  7. Amethyst59

    Amethyst59 Registered User

    Jul 3, 2017
    5,738
    Female
    Kent
    I am so sorry for your loss. It is such a cruel disease. I would say too, that we are all here still to support you through this hard time.
     
  8. Izzy

    Izzy Volunteer Moderator

    Aug 31, 2003
    59,237
    Female
    Dundee
    I'm so sorry to read your news Pete.

    Please keep in touch. I found this forum invaluable in the weeks after my husband died. We're here to support as much as we can.

    Wishing you strength.
     
  9. 2jays

    2jays Registered User

    Jun 4, 2010
    11,590
    West Midlands
    Thinking of you Pete

    People trot out sayings like "look after yourself"

    And I wondered how do you look after yourself when in depths of mourning

    What I have learned is, the best way to look after yourself, is to ignore the guilt monster and the "what if" monster and try to remember the good times

    Not easy, but we are here, holding your hand tight xxxxx
     
  10. Loopiloo

    Loopiloo Registered User

    May 10, 2010
    6,119
    Female
    Scotland
    My sincere sympathy Pete, Barbara was too young. I echo most of what others have said, do come here any time and write whatever you wish. It can help, and many of us have lost our life partner to this horrible disease. Like Izzy I have found TP an immense help since I lost my husband last year, and I still do.

    It is not easy and we are all here for you.

    Thinking of you

    Loo x
     
  11. lemonjuice

    lemonjuice Registered User

    Jun 15, 2016
    1,535
    England
    What can one say to someone who has lost a lifetime partner? There simply are no words.
    Yes you will have some hard times ahead and at times no doubt the grief will overwhelm you.

    Just remember, however you cope, is probably the right way for you to cope. there are no 'rights or wrongs' for how one should grieve.
     
  12. HillyBilly

    HillyBilly Registered User

    Dec 21, 2015
    1,948
    Ireland
    Oh Pete I am so very sorry for your loss. TP is always here if you need support or somewhere to wail x
     
  13. Kjn

    Kjn Registered User

    Jul 27, 2013
    5,835
    So sorry Pete, very sorry for your loss. X
     

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