Hi everyone, long time since I've posted. While mum remains stable I don't tend to look at TP too often.
However .....
I have EPA for my mum and control bill paying etc. but she still has her own bank cards and shops for herself for day to day stuff etc. Because she isn't allowed to drive too far I always accompany her when she needs more 'serious' shopping, especially for clothes. Clothes shopping is, and always has been, a great joy for my mum!!
I also need to be with her when she shops for clothes because she can't remember what she's got. This is the reason she has 19 white blouses. Anyway, she's going on holiday next week and together we've been through her wardrobe, been shopping for what she'll need and that's that, all done and dusted. Except I've been away myself (just back this week). Before I went I typed a sheet of 'instructions' for while I was away. This included 'DON'T BUY ANYTHING!! WAIT TILL AMANDA RETURNS!!) I expect she buried the paper because I've returned to find she's spent £300 + on clothes "because I needed SOMETHING new for my holiday".
I also noticed in her diary "Collect card from Co-op" and when quizzed she admitted she'd left it behind in the shop. I'm aware she's done this a couple of times recently (how many times when I wasn't aware?) and we also had a panic just before I went away because she'd "lost" both bank cards. I knew they were around somewhere but couldn't find them so had to cancel them for safety and request new ones. Of course they did turn up but it was too late.
All this to say, is it time for me to take the cards away? I don't want to take her independence away before it's necessary but I am concerned about a) security if she's leaving the cards behind in shops, and b) the amount of money she's spending.
Any ideas?
Amanda
However .....
I have EPA for my mum and control bill paying etc. but she still has her own bank cards and shops for herself for day to day stuff etc. Because she isn't allowed to drive too far I always accompany her when she needs more 'serious' shopping, especially for clothes. Clothes shopping is, and always has been, a great joy for my mum!!
I also need to be with her when she shops for clothes because she can't remember what she's got. This is the reason she has 19 white blouses. Anyway, she's going on holiday next week and together we've been through her wardrobe, been shopping for what she'll need and that's that, all done and dusted. Except I've been away myself (just back this week). Before I went I typed a sheet of 'instructions' for while I was away. This included 'DON'T BUY ANYTHING!! WAIT TILL AMANDA RETURNS!!) I expect she buried the paper because I've returned to find she's spent £300 + on clothes "because I needed SOMETHING new for my holiday".
I also noticed in her diary "Collect card from Co-op" and when quizzed she admitted she'd left it behind in the shop. I'm aware she's done this a couple of times recently (how many times when I wasn't aware?) and we also had a panic just before I went away because she'd "lost" both bank cards. I knew they were around somewhere but couldn't find them so had to cancel them for safety and request new ones. Of course they did turn up but it was too late.
All this to say, is it time for me to take the cards away? I don't want to take her independence away before it's necessary but I am concerned about a) security if she's leaving the cards behind in shops, and b) the amount of money she's spending.
Any ideas?
Amanda