Hello Pammy, Skye et all,
Incontinence is one of the most tricky and delicate issues of all. It is the one thing where I can't turn a blind eye. I learnt a long time ago not to worry about mismatched clothing, a scratched tabletop or food and drink being spilled, to name but a few, but when it comes to excrement (wish I could remember Michael's wonderful terminology!!!), I have to take over, and I become a bully.
The trick is, if at all possible, to be 100% prepared: all equipment within easy reach, and doing 'things' in the right order so as to be able to work fast and with authority.
There is often a great deal of cursing and pushing involved, but I've discovered that the more quiet I remain, the less aggressive he is. Fortunately, our bathroom is tiny which gives me a bit more control.
Like all the other challenges we (and many others) face, they are to be overcome, we find solutions as we go along, and somehow we all manage.
Best wishes!!