Hi everyone Just looking for some sympathy here. Have had mum in day care for past 2 days from 12pm til 5.30pm, have been so tired I can get nothing done when she's out and have aches and pains everywhere, am battling with a blinding headache that's been there since the weekend, when I had the big showdown with the new care agency. I seem to be carrying my shoulders up around my ears all the time. I think it must be a stress headache. Mum was the most unsettled she's ever been last night. She kept getting her coat to go home to her wee one. I'm the 38 year old wee one! I got seriously stressed with her last night, dad was holding it all in too. Then when the girl came to change her for bed she wouldn't get changed. Not only did the drawers stay put, so did everything else. I can't really blame her. They come at 9pm which I picked, it's preferable to 7.30pm when the others came, but because of my mum's arthritis she can only come down and go up the stairs once a day. So when they change her for bed it disrupts the family viewing, they stay a good 30 mins to 45mins as I think they are told to do this. Then, because mum can't go to bed alone and has to be locked in with dad, no one goes to bed for another 1-2 hours. Although everyone's going on about me getting a break and letting the carer's help, it's really just putting more strain on me. Just don't know what to do anymore. Hate all these people coming and going I seem to spend most of my time getting clothes etc ready for them coming. Why can't I just settle with all this? Everyone else seems to cope with getting outside help. Why is it I can't bloody stand it? Sorry, I just need to let off steam.