1. susan

    susan Registered User

    Aug 18, 2003
    125
    east sussex
    Dear Norman
    Hope that things are settling down after the out of routine xmas and that you are feeling a little more relaxed. Can i wish you and peg the best for 2005 - make the most of every day some good some not so good. Keep smiling - you kept me going!
    Love sue
     
  2. Norman

    Norman Registered User

    Oct 9, 2003
    4,348
    Birmingham Hades
    Doreen
    I too gave up involving Peg in doing things in the house.
    It wasn't worth the clearing up after the messes,like water everywhere from coffee/tea making.To say nothing of the milk/coffee powder etc etc.
    How can they be involved when they have almost no short term memory?
    I think this is another expert's theory blown .
    I hope you and all our friends have a peaceful and tolerable new year
    Norman
     
  3. Brucie

    Brucie Registered User

    Jan 31, 2004
    12,413
    near London
    The thing about many 'experts' is that they tend to observe and try to figure things out on the basis of that. They then try to apply what they think has happened to everyone. They rarely care for someone who has dementia and thus never understand the practicality of these things, on a day by day basis.
     
  4. Norman

    Norman Registered User

    Oct 9, 2003
    4,348
    Birmingham Hades
    Well put Bruce.
    I think sometimes amateur psychologists are the worst,worse than experts
    Norman
     
  5. Nutty Nan

    Nutty Nan Registered User

    Nov 2, 2003
    787
    Buckinghamshire
    tv / pictures / mirrors

    Depending on mood, my husband often gets cross about 'all those people over there', which is usually a signal to turn the tv off.
    However, he also finds it difficult to recognise himself on photos and in the mirror, chats to the 'fellow who looks at him in the bathroom', and also to photographs and pictures in the house, whether they are family members or paintings.
    He is a great music lover, and for many years, has been trying to display audio tapes, cds and even video tapes and books so that the pictures can be seen (rather than the 'spine'). This causes huge problems, because the whole display collapses regularly, but apart from annoying him (and irritating me, because it looks so terribly untidy), it gives him something to do!
    The reason I mention this is, that he has also dispalyed some favourite LPs in the same way, tells visitors that he has had many a conversation with Bing Crosby/Frank Sinatra etc. He also chats to them, smiles at them, and recently, has been asking whether 'they' are likely to 'go out' when we are upstairs in bed, and 'why don't they ever talk to me, or need anything to eat?'
    Confusion reigns between reality and imagination, and it is not always easy to make light of it!
     
  6. Brucie

    Brucie Registered User

    Jan 31, 2004
    12,413
    near London
    Is it any different - essentially - than people praying at home, or going to churches, synagogues or mosques and talking to a 'God' of some variety?

    Whatever works for them, that is the important thing.

    I talk to the radio and TV all the time - mostly telling the BBC to stop advertising digital programmes to someone who can't receive them because they have not updated the transmitter. I also tell them to stop transmitting such low grade trash!

    Is that really any different? All of these things just help all parties let off steam.
     
  7. Norman

    Norman Registered User

    Oct 9, 2003
    4,348
    Birmingham Hades
    I find that I talk to myself more these days.
    I have dicussions about tasks as I undertake them,getting meals housework etc.
    My theory-rather than get into a deep conversation with my wife,most of which I cannot understand,I talk to myself.
    Make sense?
    Or should I be worried?
    Norman
     
  8. barraf

    barraf Registered User

    Mar 27, 2004
    308
    Huddersfield
    No Norman you shouldn't worry.

    If you are by nature a talker you will talk to yourself or your God or to a loved ones grave, particularly if you are in an environment where you cannot have a meaningful conversation with another person.

    I never have been a talker, in any group or even one to one I am the one who listens and very rarely ininitiates conversations. Therefore I don't tend to talk aloud to myself, or to my God, or to anything else.

    What goes on inside my head is an entirely different matter. As I hold numerous conversations with all sorts of people, well diatribes really.

    So there is no essential difference between some one who talks to him or herself aloud and one who does it in his or her head. It is just human nature.

    Cheers Barraf
     
  9. Mjaqmac

    Mjaqmac Registered User

    Mar 13, 2004
    939
    Norman don't worry, I have full scale rows with myself. Even bought myself flowers to make up once. Maybe I should worry!
     
  10. Anne54

    Anne54 Registered User

    Sep 16, 2004
    147
    Nottingham
    Dear Norman
    I think the question is not "should you worry if you talk to yourself", but should you worry if you don’t, when there is no one else to talk to I think its normal to talk to yourself I do it all the time. It’s only supposed to be bad if you get an answer, sorry Magic.
    Anne
     
  11. Chesca

    Chesca Guest

    Dear Norman

    I spend a lot of time talking to myself around here. It's the only sensible conversation I can get, and even that's doubtful! Mum used to say the only time to worry is when you answer yourself back and give yourself a slap for your cheek!

    Love
    Chesca
     

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