My Mother was diagnosed with dementia about 3 weeks ago. She can often be quite clear minded early on in the day, although this can vary, and later in the day is usually more confused.
At her diagnosis appointment, although the doctor told us both the dementia diagnosis, I don't think my Mother understood it at all. She's never mentioned it since, and she thinks she really just has some normal age related memory problems.
My quandary is whether to pick a moment when she's relatively clear minded and try to explain it to her in terms she might understand, or just to leave her as she is. I know if she does really understand it, she'll be horrendously upset, to the point where I don't know if she'd be able to carry on with any semblance of a life. I think she'll basically give up. There are already many days where she feels there's nothing to live for and I think understanding her diagnosis fully would tip her into possible depression. It feels an endless battle for me as it is trying to keep her spirits up and keep her motivated.
On the other hand it doesn't feel right for her to not grasp her own diagnosis and underhanded of me to speak to healthcare personnel about her.
Any advice please?
At her diagnosis appointment, although the doctor told us both the dementia diagnosis, I don't think my Mother understood it at all. She's never mentioned it since, and she thinks she really just has some normal age related memory problems.
My quandary is whether to pick a moment when she's relatively clear minded and try to explain it to her in terms she might understand, or just to leave her as she is. I know if she does really understand it, she'll be horrendously upset, to the point where I don't know if she'd be able to carry on with any semblance of a life. I think she'll basically give up. There are already many days where she feels there's nothing to live for and I think understanding her diagnosis fully would tip her into possible depression. It feels an endless battle for me as it is trying to keep her spirits up and keep her motivated.
On the other hand it doesn't feel right for her to not grasp her own diagnosis and underhanded of me to speak to healthcare personnel about her.
Any advice please?