My aunt has recently been diagnosed with vascular dementia. It seems a little bit like the initial diagnoses didn't get followed up on and my Uncle (her brother) lives locally and has been popping in to see her and has now got her back to the doctors as he has noticed things getting worse. After going to visit (I live about an hour away) I had a stark awakening of just how bad she has got and I cant leave it all to my Uncle, I went to an assessment meeting with her last week - where she did the cognitive tests (the third time she has done one) and need to start getting some support for her. She is still able to function (although the amount of weight she has lost suggests she isn't eating 3 meals a day anymore) but doesn't want to acknowledge that there is a problem - we speak to her and she seems to agree with what we say but there isn't a problem - the things she isn't doing anymore are because she is bored of them, she has always had a bad memory and she doesn't need any help. What can I do - I don't want to force things on her but she does need some support - just like a whiteboard to write notes on, a calendar clock so she knows what day it is but she just wont accept it. Any ideas greatly appreciated.