Thought I had got a little bit of myself back with husband in day care four days a week and having just had a weeks respite. He has always refused to do anything until he is ready but he now refuses to do anything I ask him. He refused to get into the car last week on the way to daycare (I do not have the confidence to take him out anywhere as he just walks off and shouts and swears) He walked off down the road and when I tried to bring him back pushed me against a wall and shouted. Eventually got him into the house after three quarters of an hour walking up and down the road. I left taking him to daycare and thought the next day would be different but it wasnt. He has started refusing to go to the toilet and when he has had an accident refuses to let me clean him or get him into the shower until he is ready. Today he was cold and would not let put a sweater on him shouting and swearing at me and not letting me put his trousers on until he was ready. Is this a phase or another step down the ladder. Life is hard enough without spending all day trying to get him to do things. I decided yesterday to take a step back but it made no difference, he just wanders round the house muttering. Then out of the blue he will say Are you alright love? Arrrgh.