@Bunpoots have the hospital even spoken to your care agency? They cannot assume that both you and the Carers are simply there at the drop of a hat!!!
Don't worry about the labelling. Most care homes will do this for you for a small fee all in one hit. I labelled all of my Mum's only to find this out afterwards!. I think your sentence is more a recognition of what is coming than a literal comment though, so just sending a huuuuuuge hug. xx
Black sharpie will last a lot of washings. Write on clothing label. You only need a few to start.I need to get his clothes labelled
Just caught up with the diabolical hospital shenanigans. What planet are they on? He’s only just gone back in under drs orders. Beggars belief!!
Good luck. Sending more hugs and tissues.
Oh Bunpoots I thought we had problems but you're suffering more than anyone should. Be strong and refuse to be responsible for your dads safety ! They have a duty of care after all.Help! I've just had a call from the discharge nurse. They want him out again. Now!!! Trying to delay.
About breaking down and crying. I did this, I have never been so low. The medics took the point. I wonder if a message could be pinned temporarily to the door of the house saying there is no one in now. I know it's not what we want to do but it would make a point. Photograph it as well. They cannot possibly discharge him home alone. Not if it is made clear like this. Kindred.Oh @Bunpoots
This is so unfair on you and on your dad. They're not making any sense, are they? How can they be saying both that they may section him, and that they want to discharge him?? Truly bizarre and, it seems to me, irresponsible.
Am thinking of you - what a nightmare!
Sadly my mum was in and out of hospital three times in quick succession, a bit like your dad but without the threat of sectioning her ( this was three years ago). Finally a staff nurse on the ward called me to tip me off that it was about to happen again, I phoned social services at the hospital, we had an emergency meeting on the ward and it was agreed she could stay pending placement. I had broken down and wept in the meeting and I think even the medics could see that I was truly at the end of what I could do. It really shouldn't come to that, though...
(((Hugs)))
Lindy xx
Me too I'm worried about my husbands state of mind. He is suicidal due to agonising pain in his remaining leg and to be treated like a criminal for no reason is breaking my heart I feel so helpless and of course it's the weekend so my hands are tied until Monday. Not that SS answers the phone . Keep being fobbed off. Do you know if PALS would be any help ? Our helpful G.P. And M.I.L's is now on holiday for 2 weeks so no help there. Fingers crossed I can get through to the SS manager on Monday and change SW ASAP.@Bunpoots - Ridiculous they want him out when it didn't work before. Anyway you can get hold of the on the ball GP and get him fighting your corner. I hope you manage to delay the discharge till there is a proper assessment of your father's needs.
@BLIP - That sounds like a nightmare. From what you've written before things were getting tricky with your MiL, but the SW seems to be handling this in a very high-handed way, and not taking your views into account. Hope you get it all sorted soon.
Would they drop him home alone? It has happened to people who have no one to speak for them - in the middle of the night, to a cold flat with nothing in the fridge. And it's not the nurses' or doctors' fault, it's the discharge team that has one goal only - free up beds by discharging people who are remotely deemed "medically fit for discharge". I'm not saying they are all like that, but they are under immense pressure from management, and protocol is probably not always followed.I've just been told they're holding him in A&E. The Emergency assessment unit. So they haven't re- admitted him yet. I'm off to take the key out of the keysafe @Beate @canary. Unfortunately daughter gave them the number when she answered the phone this morning, and protocol is probably not always followed.
Would they really drop him home alone?
I'm thinking of emailing the local paper...
Yes I want them to section him. They're trying their best to avoid giving me any help.
Would they drop him home alone? It has happened to people who have no one to speak for them - in the middle of the night, to a cold flat with nothing in the fridge. And it's not the nurses' or doctors' fault, it's the discharge team that has one goal only - free up beds by discharging people who are remotely deemed "medically fit for discharge". I'm not saying they are all like that, but they are under immense pressure from management, and protocol is probably not always followed.
You'll have to be VERY vocal.
Would they drop him home alone? It has happened to people who have no one to speak for them - in the middle of the night, to a cold flat with nothing in the fridge. And it's not the nurses' or doctors' fault, it's the discharge team that has one goal only - free up beds by discharging people who are remotely deemed "medically fit for discharge". I'm not saying they are all like that, but they are under immense pressure from management, and protocol is probably not always followed.
You'll have to be VERY vocal.