Hi there. I just registered this morning and am looking for advice/support.
My Dad (86) was diagnosed with Vascular Dementia 2 years ago and the decline in him is so frightening. He lives alone but I am only 15 mins drive from him. I could (as I’m sure all of you could) write a book at this stage on how it has progressed and the various situations we have faced.
The most recent concern was that I got a call from Dad’s neighbour last Monday night at 9.45 to say that he had come into them (he doesn’t really know them) and told them he had lost a baby in the house and could they come and help him find her. Needless to say, there was no baby but trying to convince him of that just wasn’t getting through. He was so distressed and had clearly been very upset about the whole situation. He eventually calmed down and I stayed the night with him.
He has a carer that comes into him for an hour each morning and then another carer for an hour on 2 afternoons but I’m very very worried about him. I called the PHN yesterday and am waiting to hear back from her.
Dad’s memory is so so bad. He has no recollection whatsoever of what happened on Monday night. He honestly can’t remember things that happened within 30 minutes. He thinks he still works and calls me every morning asking me to ring his employer to say he’ll be late in. Yesterday he said he was supposed to be flying an airplane for Aer Lingus and would I let them know he wouldn’t make it! He has never flown a plane before or had any connection with an airline company. My Mum passed away when I was very young - 39 years ago but Dad can’t remember that and sometimes asks if she’s gone out to do the shopping, etc. Most days he doesn’t recognise his house and asks where he is. I try to reassure him and say that where he is is the best and safest place to be because, if I say he’s at home, he gets really annoyed with me.
Yesterday he thought he was in America. The list goes on .....
Now I’m waffling so apologies ?♀
I guess I’m hoping somebody can give me some advice/guidance as I’m the only one of his children who is looking after him and trying to make the right decisions and I honestly don’t know what to do next. I am very concerned about his own safety living at home on his own and am not sure what to do at all. It’s a constant worry and I’m afraid to mess it up.
Thanks for reading my post x
My Dad (86) was diagnosed with Vascular Dementia 2 years ago and the decline in him is so frightening. He lives alone but I am only 15 mins drive from him. I could (as I’m sure all of you could) write a book at this stage on how it has progressed and the various situations we have faced.
The most recent concern was that I got a call from Dad’s neighbour last Monday night at 9.45 to say that he had come into them (he doesn’t really know them) and told them he had lost a baby in the house and could they come and help him find her. Needless to say, there was no baby but trying to convince him of that just wasn’t getting through. He was so distressed and had clearly been very upset about the whole situation. He eventually calmed down and I stayed the night with him.
He has a carer that comes into him for an hour each morning and then another carer for an hour on 2 afternoons but I’m very very worried about him. I called the PHN yesterday and am waiting to hear back from her.
Dad’s memory is so so bad. He has no recollection whatsoever of what happened on Monday night. He honestly can’t remember things that happened within 30 minutes. He thinks he still works and calls me every morning asking me to ring his employer to say he’ll be late in. Yesterday he said he was supposed to be flying an airplane for Aer Lingus and would I let them know he wouldn’t make it! He has never flown a plane before or had any connection with an airline company. My Mum passed away when I was very young - 39 years ago but Dad can’t remember that and sometimes asks if she’s gone out to do the shopping, etc. Most days he doesn’t recognise his house and asks where he is. I try to reassure him and say that where he is is the best and safest place to be because, if I say he’s at home, he gets really annoyed with me.
Yesterday he thought he was in America. The list goes on .....
Now I’m waffling so apologies ?♀
I guess I’m hoping somebody can give me some advice/guidance as I’m the only one of his children who is looking after him and trying to make the right decisions and I honestly don’t know what to do next. I am very concerned about his own safety living at home on his own and am not sure what to do at all. It’s a constant worry and I’m afraid to mess it up.
Thanks for reading my post x