My Mother has Alziemers and was only able to stay in her own home with lots of support from my sister and brother.
To cut a long story short she became very difficult to manage she was verbally aggressive, having outbursts of shouting and continually banging the back door at night, even disturbing her neighbours.
Even though my brother stayed in the house at night, she would go out, and lock herself out then go down to her friends house all different hours of the night for a spare key, she would forget my brother was in the house.
She also wouldn't go to bed, she didn't understand that at night people would be in bed so she would go into my brother and just put the lights on, so he didn't get much sleep and had to work the next day
My sister would go and look after her during the day, as my mum couldn't cook or shop for herself but she just couldn't keep it up and mum screaming and shouting at her all the time she reached a point of not being able to continue, my mum also couldn't be left as she was setting light to bits of paper she is a smoker.
And was becoming a danger,, she wouldn't have excepted carers either She didn't want to be left on her own.
I couldn't help as I am housebound with M. E.
My sister and brother were becoming exhausted.
So as my mum got worse we decided to she would have to go into care.
She is self funded.
This was for a months trial
We rang social services at the time she went in and are still waiting for a assessment. But her savings are getting low now The home she is in is council run so we can't get deferred payment, we think the council will loan us some of the money we top up until the house is sold, is this right?
My sister chose this care home and it's really nice and she is very happy with it.
The council seem to be taking for ever to get back to us.
The house has only just gone on the market.
Any advice would be much appreciated.
To cut a long story short she became very difficult to manage she was verbally aggressive, having outbursts of shouting and continually banging the back door at night, even disturbing her neighbours.
Even though my brother stayed in the house at night, she would go out, and lock herself out then go down to her friends house all different hours of the night for a spare key, she would forget my brother was in the house.
She also wouldn't go to bed, she didn't understand that at night people would be in bed so she would go into my brother and just put the lights on, so he didn't get much sleep and had to work the next day
My sister would go and look after her during the day, as my mum couldn't cook or shop for herself but she just couldn't keep it up and mum screaming and shouting at her all the time she reached a point of not being able to continue, my mum also couldn't be left as she was setting light to bits of paper she is a smoker.
And was becoming a danger,, she wouldn't have excepted carers either She didn't want to be left on her own.
I couldn't help as I am housebound with M. E.
My sister and brother were becoming exhausted.
So as my mum got worse we decided to she would have to go into care.
She is self funded.
This was for a months trial
We rang social services at the time she went in and are still waiting for a assessment. But her savings are getting low now The home she is in is council run so we can't get deferred payment, we think the council will loan us some of the money we top up until the house is sold, is this right?
My sister chose this care home and it's really nice and she is very happy with it.
The council seem to be taking for ever to get back to us.
The house has only just gone on the market.
Any advice would be much appreciated.
