It's been a long 9 years since mum was diagnosed with advanced dementia. At 85 I did not think we would get here.
I haven't been able to visit my poor mum for 12 Months, and today received a call to say she's covid positive. No cases in the home staff or patients but somehow she's positive..no visits for 12 Months.
Been told today she's been choking on food and aspirating on water intermittently for'a while'. GP today prescribed thickening agent. My mum's usual GP is off long term.
I am not allowed to visit.
She has no symptoms of covid but I'm told tested positive.
I've got a care review booked for tomorrow. It's been booked a couple of weeks ago.
I have no idea what to ask for. No professional has seen my mum.
I asked for a therapy assessment as mum's arms and legs are contracted but was declined as she's 'too far gone' for anything to help. I said I just wanted to make sure she's comfortable.
Do I ask for a dietician referrel or am I kidding myself she is going to get through this immediate situation.
I'm overwhelmed by the anticipatory grief, not knowing what to fight for, being unable to visit.
I feel so weak and don't know if we are near the end of this nightmare, or the beginning.
I haven't been able to visit my poor mum for 12 Months, and today received a call to say she's covid positive. No cases in the home staff or patients but somehow she's positive..no visits for 12 Months.
Been told today she's been choking on food and aspirating on water intermittently for'a while'. GP today prescribed thickening agent. My mum's usual GP is off long term.
I am not allowed to visit.
She has no symptoms of covid but I'm told tested positive.
I've got a care review booked for tomorrow. It's been booked a couple of weeks ago.
I have no idea what to ask for. No professional has seen my mum.
I asked for a therapy assessment as mum's arms and legs are contracted but was declined as she's 'too far gone' for anything to help. I said I just wanted to make sure she's comfortable.
Do I ask for a dietician referrel or am I kidding myself she is going to get through this immediate situation.
I'm overwhelmed by the anticipatory grief, not knowing what to fight for, being unable to visit.
I feel so weak and don't know if we are near the end of this nightmare, or the beginning.