My O/H was asked to leave after only three days because of aggressive behaviour. This only started when she went in,but I could no longer cope at home. So contacted mental health nurse and social services and 111 doctors to try and quieten her down and they increased the Resperidone which is working slowly. But finding a new care home is not easy. It may say Demetia Care on the signboard but what most of them mean is mild dementia only ! I was such a state I went to GP who said it was no longer my problem and gave me sleeping pills In order to keep my wife in theoriginal care home whilst I looked for another, SS arranged I-I care which was a relief to me but the cost was horrific Now after contacting and visiting 30 care homes I have found a new one 17 miles away and she moves on Monday I have not seem my wife for nearly three weeks as my presence starts her off so I don't know whether to help with transfer or leave it to the experts. as for stress if you see some poor old sod crying in the High street it is probably me !